Right at the beginning of this chapter, the authors say:
No mater how much you talk to yourself, read, study, or practice, you can't develop or set boundaries apart from supportive relationships with God and others. Don't even try to start setting limits until you have entered into deep, abiding attachments with people who will love you no matter what.
I'm not getting this. I don't know about you guys, but I'm not sure I HAVE any safe people.
Since one of the major issues with a boundary-less person seems to be problems forming safe relationship with safe people, it sounds to me like I'm not ever supposed to get started. It's like ouroboros.
Am I reading this wrong? What am I missing?
It seemed a little incongruous with the rest of the chapter, which talks a lot about the development of boundaries as a child.
I'm not sure where I'm supposed to find anyone to love on me while I stretch my teensy little boundary wings.