Ballad wrote: What if there is no buy-in to this notion at all? What if standing up to someone loses respect, rather than gaining it? What if your own needs and priorities are so far off the other person's radar, that they can't even recognize boundaries as an attempt to define oneself, and instead prefer to interpret them as an invasion of their concept of the world?
Is it, perhaps, that in some situations, exposing the boundary focuses the other party's attention on territory that still needs to be controlled?
Can you give a hypothetical? I'm not seeing that someone else has to buy in to my boundaries. My boundaries are not about other people. They are about me. My boundaries help me give what I am able to give without anger and resentment. If the other person doesn't like it, I have to be willing to risk their anger in order for me to stay within my boundary.