Erection Quality

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Erection Quality

Postby ophelia » Wed Nov 23, 2016 1:25 pm

Okay, new dumb question for you guys. I have noticed over the last few years that dh's erection quality has not been what it was. It is not ED. He has been on injectable TRT for three years now and his numbers have been fairly decent. He is 38 years old. I understand that his hormone issues probably contribute to his erection quality but I am wondering...is it possible that it has to do with his age? He's not that old but I don't expect him to be like he was when he was 20 either.
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Re: Erection Quality

Postby doug-h » Wed Nov 23, 2016 1:48 pm

Age, stress, diet, frequency of sex, and any number of other things might play a role in that.

Has he tried any supplimemts such as L-arginine?

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Re: Erection Quality

Postby ophelia » Wed Nov 23, 2016 1:49 pm

L-arginine didn't seem to do much. We tried L-Citrulline a few years ago but it caused too many cold sores.
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Re: Erection Quality

Postby tjw » Wed Nov 23, 2016 4:24 pm

...is it possible that it has to do with his age?


Yes, indirectly. Erections are made by arteries opening up, while veins close.

One contributor to erection quality is the degree of atherosclerosis in the blood vessels carrying blood to and from the penis (and those inside the penis as well). Atherosclerosis can serve to restrict the blood flow into the penis, and also to prevent complete closure of the veins which hold the blood in the penis.

Since atherosclerosis is a cumulative disease, older men generally have it to greater degree than younger men.

Erectile difficulties can be a predictor of future diseases which come from atherosclerosis, like coronary artery disease, vascular dementia, peripheral arterial disease. The trajectory of atherosclerosis can be measured in specific men through medical tests, and lifestyle changes, diet, exercise, and medications can be prescribed to slow down its progression. This medical knowledge can add many years of vitality to a man's life, especially if started early in his age.

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Re: Erection Quality

Postby OldBear » Wed Nov 23, 2016 5:55 pm

We all experience changes in our libido, physiological changes, fitnesss, life challenges, etc. Any and all of these changes can affect a man's erection quality at various stages of life. My memory back to my early 40s is vague enough to not recall if my erection quality had waned. Certainly my libido was less than my 20s. Now in my late 60s, my erection quality clearly is less robust than decades ago.

Most important, Ophelia, if the quality of your DH's erection does not affect his performance or your satisfaction (you mentioned he does not have ED, implying that he can orgasm), then there's not much to be concerned about. OTHO, perhaps you are mostly concerned that his quality of erection diminishes or manifests in an inability to perform as the year's go on. Certainly there are men who can perform like a 30 year old when they are 70 . . . good for them. It's more likely that as men age, they simply aren't going to be as virile as when they were younger.

That's my experience. My quality of erection is diminished and once in a while I fail to perform (not often). However, thankfully and gratefully, the quality of my erection does not detract one bit from my satisfaction and Mrs. Oldbear's pleasure.

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Re: Erection Quality

Postby ophelia » Wed Nov 23, 2016 8:29 pm

Thanks for the replies guys. I think my issue is that I don't have experience with what is average for a man. Dh lost libido in his late twenties and had full blown ED for a year before got him treated for low T in his mid thirties. I have vague memories of much firmer erections from our earliest years together. I know I shouldn't expect things to be the same now but I also don't know what should be normal for a man his age. Is a softer erection in your late thirties normal or an indicator of further health issues?

I appreciate that we have a sex life now so I'm certainly not complaining. Just trying to get an idea if what normal would look like.
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Re: Erection Quality

Postby SquarePants » Wed Nov 23, 2016 8:33 pm

Are you monitoring his estrogen levels along with his testosterone levels?
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Re: Erection Quality

Postby MyWifesMan » Wed Nov 23, 2016 9:17 pm

I think there is an interesting similarity with how a woman typically needs more time spent in foreplay and in the changes in a man as he gets older. And that is, his MENTAL preparation for sex can become much more important. Physically, it's no longer always the automatic "jack n the box" response anymore. "Bing, I'm ready honey" - that still happens, but I can see oftentimes I have to get myself in the right frame of mind for sex. I can also lose my concentration easier. I find that constantly thinking sexually is now very important - and that begins outside of the bedroom. Also, DW has the power, with her words, touch, body, dress/undress, sexy moves, all those things in her arsenal, to stimulate my mind. Stimulate a man's mind, it will typically stimulate his penis. The power of mental stimulation to produce sexual excitement is an amazing thing. It goes a long way towards getting me ready for sex, and is a LOT more important to good performance and arousal nowadays - whereas, in my 20s, all I had to do was drop my pants and I was always raring to go.

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Re: Erection Quality

Postby tjw » Thu Nov 24, 2016 8:24 am

Just trying to get an idea if what normal would look like.


It's very difficult to say what "normal" is. There is a very wide range of erectile performance experienced by men of all ages. But, generally speaking,
there is a "knee" in men's general physical performance which occurs between 35 and 45. Not only the sexual performance, but their physical strength, mental acuity, ambition, begins a slow decline.

Is a softer erection in your late thirties normal or an indicator of further health issues?


Without data measured directly upon your husband, it is impossible to answer this question. Even with data, the answer depends upon a doctor's clinical experience as much as the data itself. Start by presenting soft erection to urology. Urology will take some data, blood work, urine, etc. and bring in vascular or cardiology later if warranted.

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Re: Erection Quality

Postby be64 » Fri Nov 25, 2016 12:09 am

One word, Viagra.

If TRT is well sorted and poor erection quality remains I would talk to his doctor to rule out other factors such as circulation problems then I would try Viagra. With a doctors prescription generic Viagra can be purchased really cheap at Sam's Club pharmacy. I can get 30 20mg pills for ten dollars. I take either one or two each time. When my hormones are in a good place viagra makes me function like I am twenty again. If my hormones are out of wack then it doesn't do much for me. I have discovered that for me it is a high estradiol level that interferes most with sex.
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Re: Erection Quality

Postby happilymarriedkate » Sat Nov 26, 2016 9:14 pm

My DH's erection quality was directly related to his low T. Now with T therapy, when is erection quality goes down it is an indicator that his estrogen is increased. With T, when his levels are where they should be- he has very firm erections. He is soon to be 46.
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Re: Erection Quality

Postby be64 » Sat Nov 26, 2016 9:42 pm

Yes, that has been my experience.
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Re: Erection Quality

Postby ophelia » Sat Nov 26, 2016 10:13 pm

Dh should be due to get his labs done again soon. I don't think his estrogen was elevated last time but it seems that something changes every time he has them drawn.
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Re: Erection Quality

Postby be64 » Sat Nov 26, 2016 10:26 pm

It doesn't take much of an elevation in estradiol to through me off. Even the higher end of the normal range is too high for me.
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Re: Erection Quality

Postby ophelia » Sat Nov 26, 2016 10:38 pm

Good to know. Thank you be64
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Re: Erection Quality

Postby C_Brown » Sun Nov 27, 2016 7:25 pm

ophelia wrote:L-arginine didn't seem to do much. We tried L-Citrulline a few years ago but it caused too many cold sores.


How much L-arginine was he taking. I take 2000mg in the morning and another 2000mg in the evening. Sometimes a hit a low spot and my take an extra 1000mg for a day or two. I find it very effective.
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