Celebrate Recovery

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Celebrate Recovery

Postby doug-h » Tue Sep 22, 2015 8:20 am

I just wanted to take a moment to introduce this program to those who may never have heard of it, and to recommend to those who have heard of it, but have decided it would not be helpful to them, and to encourage those who are on the fence about it, but are unconvinced.

Honestly, I was very firmly in the second group. I was certain that there was no way sitting around with a group of men(and women in the open group), discussing all our hangups and hurts, was going to have any impact on my life or my recovery from pornography. There was no way I was going to share my own burdens and shortcomings with a bunch of strangers. It is impossible to adequately express how wrong I was. In two weeks(2 meetings), I have a new family who cares about me, understands me, and supports me. They can feel my own pain, and support me in it, because they all share in it to some degree, and I find myself reaching out to people who in the past I would have judged.

The real eye opener in all of this, is that I have discovered in such a short time, that porn is only the tiniest portion of the battles I have been fighting all my life. I have other, more deeply buried issues that are are already coming to light, specifically as they deal with how I relate to myself, and to other people.

I can not describe what it is like, as I am only beginning down this path, but I will tell everyone here, and if you were close enough, I would grab your shoulders, and look you in the eyes, and tell you, that it can help, probably will help, no matter if your problems are porn, anger, self worth, resentment(yeah, those are just a few of mine). I can't even imagine a hurt or a hangup, where you would not find some level of help and encouragement by attending and sharing that with others.

I don't know if there is already a thread relating to CR, and if there is, I apologize for not searching more deeply, and bringing it back to the top. I just felt convicted, especially with some of the threads that have been ongoing, that I had to say something. I know I am as tough a nut to crack as there is, and I have been laid wide open in such a short time, and can feel the poison already trickling out of my heart.

Doug

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Re: Celebrate Recovery

Postby catwoman » Fri Sep 25, 2015 8:57 am

We started helping with cr at our church. I thought I would just bring some food and be in the background since that fits our personality. We too have found a new family. Our cr family have been the ones to encourage us through a recent tough trial. I enjoy the being with real people working towards healing and greater connection with God.

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Re: Celebrate Recovery

Postby doug-h » Fri Sep 25, 2015 9:44 am

So happy that you are finding help there Catwoman. I prayed for your family and that you would all find strength and refuge in your struggle. I shall bring you all back into my prayers.


I have an interesting/unbelievable anecdote to add to my experience.

I was talking to my mother on the phone earlier in the week, and discussing my new church and how much I enjoyed attending.

I remarked to her, that I was attending a "therapy group" once a week, and I asked her not to share that information with my Dad. I asked that, because in all the years when I was growing up, he has never even let on that he had emotions, and if someone else did, then it was something not to be expressed in public. You simply did not expose yourself in that way, and if you did, you were likely something less than manly. Pretty much the only emotion I ever saw him expose was anger and a deep grief when my oldest brother was killed in an accident. Most of the time, even the grief was camouflaged as anger. He started softening a little later around grandchildren and such, but he was still pretty closed off.

Anyways, my mother replied cheerfully something to the effect that she was happy I was going, and that my dad had been attending something called "Celebrate Recovery" and was really finding it to be a positive experience.... :shock: :shock: :shock: . Then my Dad got on the phone and we all talked about it in general terms together. No specifics, just that it was a great program and helpful to all three of us.

Seems the Good Lord was busy behind the scenes, and removing one more obstacle from my recovery, and helping my Dad at the same time. ::cool ::cool ::cool

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Re: Celebrate Recovery

Postby catwoman » Sat Sep 26, 2015 8:52 am

Oh my gosh that is womderful!

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Re: Celebrate Recovery

Postby SeekingChange » Sat Sep 26, 2015 9:28 am

catwoman wrote:Oh my gosh that is womderful!

I agree, I love seeing how God works things together.
God can change what people do, behavioral patterns that have been in play for decades. He can change what we do to cope, find comfort, survive conflict, to count. Rahab had done a same old thing for years...then she did something new.

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Re: Celebrate Recovery

Postby doug-h » Mon Sep 25, 2017 6:27 am

Hadn't really been keeping track of how long I had been taking part in Celebrate Recovery, but for some reason I was led to look up this thread this morning.

Get to Celebrate 2 years of God working in my life thru this ministry tonight, and 2 years of seeing him working in the lives of others.


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