tjw wrote:I like the alcohol analogy. If you and your spouse are not being damaged by it, then it probably does not qualify as "lust", just as an occasional social drink or a beer on a hot day barbecue doesn't qualify as "lust".
Either I did a terrible job of expressing my thoughts, or you are greatly misinterpretin them.
The fact that alcohol is not always the root problem for the alcoholic, doesn't mean it isn't destructive. It just means that the desire to consume is not necessarily the reason he drinks too much.
I never have, and never will equate pornography of any quantity or reason, to sitting on the patio and having a beer with a friend, or a glass of wine with your wife.
I do believe that there are varying degrees of pornography struggles, and there are varying degrees of problems, but it is always a problem.
As for the statement that it isn't a problem for your wife, I don't know if it is true or not, but the consequences does not define the sin. Gluttony is every bit the sin for a skinny man as it is the obese. The consequences are determined by the body you live in, but the sin is the same.
In my rage, I might wound 10 people's hearts, while another might have an audience of thousands, and wound each of them. My sin is as great, but the consequences are different based on outside circumstance.
We can go on as long as you like, and I can bring as many examples as there are sins.