Leah wrote:padsnd wrote:kilarin wrote: Porn is no longer considered wrong by society at large.
This is true about society at large, but it is not true about the church. Porn is probably the most frequently addressed topic in most youth groups.
Maybe you are not aware of the music videos the kids at your church are watching? They are considered mainstream, yet the lyrics, costumes, and dancing go beyond what one would see in soft porn.
I still think you are mixing society and church. We have to look at society and church from both perspectives. From a point of what they are watching, I agree--some possibly even many or most--are. From a message standpoint (what is being taught), society says its okay, but we don't have a major shortage on the topic being addressed by youth leaders. That was my point.
I bet if you reviewed the teachings of 100 youth groups over four years of high school, you would find that these topics of porn and even the inappropriate material you describe is addressed in many of the meetings. However, you would be hard pressed to find more than a few of the youth groups that ever heard a message of sex is expected in marriage. At best, they heard that sex is to wait until marriage (as a you can do it then if you want).
As the saying goes:
We teach our kids that sex is disgusting, evil, vile, and sinful so save it for the one you love.
When we should he teaching them:
Sex is beautiful and sacred. It is to be celebrated, and it is God's design in marriage. Not having it marriage is a perversion of God's design. Having it outside of God's design. Both are equally perversions of His design, and He designed it that way to be best for you.