thatguyoverthere wrote:Right now, I am going through a "dry spell" where she reports "zero interest, dont know why", and I dont want her to do it as a favor to me. At the same time Im 18 days clean. My thoughts are - would it be harder to stay sober if we did have sex? Has God sent her this temporary refusal in order to help me get sober?
I don't know if I would say "God sent" this, but He definitely is allowing it. My husband has said, that even though the refusal was hard, he can look back and see that he learned self-control during that time. Self-control is a fruit of the Spirit, and so in that time He was being transformed to be more like Christ, and you will too as a child of God.
As to your wife, my guess is she is hurt, feeling betrayed, it would help if she could find someone or something to help her work through this hurt. If she doesn't, she'll start building her marriage on these hurts and negative feelings rather then on forgiveness and learning to trust again.