Dandelion_lawn wrote:...In a lot of ways, I'd answer that he is a committed Christian. He is the first guy to get his hammer or his wallet if he sees a need. He does free work for widows or poor people. He buys meals for homeless people. But, although he listens in church, he doesn't seek out the bible for himself, so in that way, I guess I'd say he's not. ...
...I'm trying not to nitpick everything he says, but he says things like "I'm sorry that you feel like I betrayed you." rather than just "I'm sorry that I betrayed you." And something similar, I can't remember how he said it, but it gave me the impression that he wasn't actually admitting to being dishonest, just to appearing dishonest.
Only God and your husband know the truth of his heart, but the profile you describe for him, and your words "committed Christian ... I'd say he's not" tell that you are not convinced. Which of these two guys does he sound like?
"Good Guy"-- lives a basically clean and moral life. Will give you the shirt off his back. Is loyal to his friends, charitable to strangers and those in need, and will defend the weak. He's a gentleman, who will be gallant and protective. But his code is mainly about "don't hurt others, be kind to all." This fits well into the Christian belief system, but it is not THE Christian creed. Being harmless, helpful, kind, and charitable is not what saves us. He may say "I believe in my heart that Jesus is Lord" but that does not save either. When you look closely he doesn't seem wholeheartedly converted to live for Christ, with a regenerated heart, born-again of the Spirit.
"Committed Christian"-- is sincerely committed to FAITH in Christ, AND OBEDIENCE to Christ. He wants to become like Christ. He longs to please God, loves God's word (the Bible), he loves God's people (the Church). He wants to know what sin is, and then he wants to avoid sin at all cost. A committed Christian hates sin. When you look closely he DOES seem wholeheartedly converted to live for Christ, with a regenerated heart, born-again of the Spirit.
Wanting to become like Job, as described in the Bible, the book of Job chapter 29. Hence the screen name.