Unconsummated Marriage

Erectile disfunction, premature ejaculation, delayed orgasm, etc.
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Re: Unconsummated Marriage

Postby Job29Man » Tue Aug 08, 2017 4:03 am

HIGH FIVES TO BOTH OF YOU! YAYYYY! HUZZAH! ::clap :mrgreen: :mrgreen:
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Re: Unconsummated Marriage

Postby poetess » Tue Aug 08, 2017 6:09 am

I'm grinning ear to ear at that good report.
Marriage--what a wonderful image of Christ's love for His bride!

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Re: Unconsummated Marriage

Postby Romantic Husband » Tue Aug 08, 2017 7:52 am

:D I'm happy to hear that your faith has been rewarded, and will continue to pray for you and your wife.
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Re: Unconsummated Marriage

Postby JD91 » Tue Sep 05, 2017 6:07 pm

Hey folks, I thought I'd post a quick update. First of all, thank you again for all the encouragement and support!

I had thought that maybe after experiencing IC a few times, sex would get easier, but it hasn't yet. We haven't had IC again since those initial three times, thanks to my persistent ED. Lately I've had almost no sex drive, sort of like the first few weeks of marriage. I just don't get aroused at all during lovemaking. Cialis has occasionally helped a bit, but I'm currently out of pills and due to my wife's change in job, we're without health insurance until October 1. 15 pills would cost over $1,000 without insurance, so it looks like my penis and I are on our own this month! It sort of feels like we're back at square one, but it's good to know at least we were able to make it happen a few times. I'm not sure how many more times it needs to happen before sex will start to come more naturally. There's still a lot of uncertainty ahead, but I definitely appreciate your continued prayers.

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Re: Unconsummated Marriage

Postby JD91 » Tue Sep 05, 2017 6:13 pm

Oh, I guess I had never posted that we made it happen two more times since the initial IC. That was several weeks ago I think, and it's only become more difficult since then.

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Re: Unconsummated Marriage

Postby Learning1 » Tue Sep 05, 2017 7:05 pm

If your equipment isn't functioning, I would strongly encourage you to try to bring your wife to O through manual sex or even you use the dilators just to keep her stretched, ideally she would get some sexual satisfaction out of it. Many woman will not O from PIV but can O with manual or toys. Please keep sexually active as much as possible even without the Cialis.
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Re: Unconsummated Marriage

Postby JD91 » Wed Sep 06, 2017 2:35 am

I did try giving her OS again recently. She liked it, but whenever she likes something that I try, it's more that it feels relaxing for her rather than sexually arousing. As always, I really wish I could bring her to O.

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Re: Unconsummated Marriage

Postby ledgemoor » Wed Sep 06, 2017 6:24 am

Please reconsider seeing a male testosterone specialist. 600 is not a horrible level, but is nothing to write home about. My performance at 600 is poor, and old guys (late 50's) typically do better on lowish levels than young guys. Different men need different levels. You can't really say if 600 is low for you without trying more testosterone. And it may not be just testosterone. It could be too much estrogen, or low FSH levels, or something else. They will check all that out.
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Re: Unconsummated Marriage

Postby JD91 » Wed Sep 06, 2017 3:30 pm

Yes I will definitely seek out a hormone specialist as a next course of action. I think that'd be a good idea. This whole thing would be easier I think if I knew it was just a chemical issue.


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