I would like to get your feedback if you've ever discussed ED with your GP or Urologist

Erectile disfunction, premature ejaculation, delayed orgasm, etc.
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I would like to get your feedback if you've ever discussed ED with your GP or Urologist

Postby alaska bob » Mon Oct 09, 2017 5:04 am

I have had a couple of incidents of ED in the past few months. I am 50ish, and my body works much differently than it did 20 years ago. The change has been gradual, but 20 years ago my wife could have said "do you want to do it" and i'd be rock hard in half a minute. I usually require more warm up time now, sometimes need a little direct stimulation, and it doesn't get quite as hard as it used to. However, there's only been a handful of occasions when it hasn't "worked' well enough to allow intercourse when we wanted to.

I had the first recent incident maybe 10 weeks ago and there was just no blood flow there. We waited about 20 minutes to allow light foreplay to produce an erection, but nothing happened. Of course, I was disappointed to have the opportunity to have sex and not be able to. It was really painful for my wife though - she has esteem problems anyway, she is my age so she's feeling less secure about her looks, and it made her feel like I'm not attracted to her anymore.

We ended up trying again that night, things worked fine, and we had somewhat awkward sex feeling somewhat rushed to 'do it' before anything happened to my erection. That period of general awkwardness lasted another six weeks or so and for that period she didn't initiate at all. When I would initiate, I would just soft of feel things out to see if I thought the blood flow was normal or not.

When she finally initiated again, we had the same problem. Just no blood flow. There was definitely some fear between my ears and I know that has a big impact on ED. I made an appointment with a urologist. I was a little nervous, and in retrospect, I might have up-played the "out of the blue" nature of this rough patch. I sort of wish I had emphasized a little more the more expanded history.

The Dr. said this was pretty common for men to go through a period like this. He gave me a sample of Viagra to help "reset" my mind. He said there were a couple of follow up tests he could do if it didn't go away on its own, but said that it appears to be between my ears, and he would probably refer me to a sex therapist if it didn't go away.

The Viagra sample is two pills. I have divided them, so they should give me a "plan B' for if/when my own body doesn't work. But I can't help but feel like two pills isn't really giving me the peace of mind that would help me not worry about this, and the idea of going to a sex therapist seems to be doing harm with my self doubt/between the ears issue rather than alleviating it.

We have not used any of the Viagra yet. The dr. did mention sometimes it is a good idea to not have penetrative sex for a short while. I'm not sure he actually said this, but it is at least what my wife heard when we were discussing the visit. So we are taking a couple of weeks off from intercourse.

I am just wondering what the normal first treatment is from the Dr. I'm wondering if I shouldn't have just asked my GP and seen if he would prescribe something. I think if I had a prescription, a lot of the self doubt would go away.

Would love to get any advice or comparable first visit stories from those that have been there.

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Re: I would like to get your feedback if you've ever discussed ED with your GP or Urologist

Postby Hoosier52 » Mon Oct 09, 2017 5:47 am

Ask the Dr. for a prescription. When I first asked my doctor I was embarrassed but he wasn't. They deal with it probably every day. He said to me, "Oh yes, sex is very important in marriage" and he wrote me a prescription for both Cialis and Viagra. I think he even gave me samples. I've had different docs since then as he is no longer in private practice. The last one is a female CNP. No problems.

I order my meds from Canadian pharmacies like Quality Prescriptions and Canadian King. You can buy either brand name or generics. You must fill out an online application, fax them your script, make your order and they usually call to verify the order and get credit card info. Never had a problem. The generics come from India and work fine. Generic Cialis is usually about $1 each or less depending on home nay you order. Have you doc write scripts for 20 mg Cialis and 100 mg Viagra so you can them in half and save even more money. I cut my Cialis into 4 pieces and take a 5 mg tab daily. If I feel like I need more I'll take more before sex. I switch between Cialis and Viagra and sometimes combine them.

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Re: I would like to get your feedback if you've ever discussed ED with your GP or Urologist

Postby ledgemoor » Mon Oct 09, 2017 7:27 am

Man, I'll bet your testosterone is low. You're at that age. If you don't treat it, not only will your performance in bed get worse, but you will get fat, have trouble sleeping, get sick a lot....

Viagra etc. just treats symptoms. Get your testosterone checked and straightened out first. Then go on to Viagra etc. if you still need it. Chances are you won't.
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Re: I would like to get your feedback if you've ever discussed ED with your GP or Urologist

Postby alaska bob » Mon Oct 09, 2017 8:33 am

ledgemoor wrote:Man, I'll bet your testosterone is low. You're at that age. If you don't treat it, not only will your performance in bed get worse, but you will get fat, have trouble sleeping, get sick a lot....


Interesting. I think the Urologist dismissed this due to me saying I still want to do it all the time. But I do have some of the other signs like weight gain, trouble sleeping, and getting sick more frequently.

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Re: I would like to get your feedback if you've ever discussed ED with your GP or Urologist

Postby Dale » Mon Oct 09, 2017 1:57 pm

Definitely have your T checked, but ED can also be a sign of arterial blockage, so I'd also do things like a cholesterol check and even an EKG to rule out heart problems. Sleep apnea can also contribute to it, so maybe looknto that as well.

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Postby alaska bob » Tue Oct 10, 2017 5:51 pm

Thanks Dale, I've recently had a pretty full diagnostic on the heart system. I had something abnormal show up on my EKG at my physical, and thankfully had enough follow up work to know that I've got great blood flow and no blockages.

As I am piecing together my memory of the urology visit, he did mention some follow up tests if the sample viagra didn't solve the problem. I imagine the T screening is what he was talking about.

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Re: I would like to get your feedback if you've ever discussed ED with your GP or Urologist

Postby ledgemoor » Wed Oct 11, 2017 5:19 am

alaska bob wrote:
ledgemoor wrote:Man, I'll bet your testosterone is low. You're at that age. If you don't treat it, not only will your performance in bed get worse, but you will get fat, have trouble sleeping, get sick a lot....


Interesting. I think the Urologist dismissed this due to me saying I still want to do it all the time. But I do have some of the other signs like weight gain, trouble sleeping, and getting sick more frequently.
When my testosterone was low, I still wanted sex too.

In fact, I still needed it. My body was still making semen. Getting relief was often not easy. I had trouble getting hard enough to enter my wife, or staying hard long enough to finish the job if managed penetration. Masturbating to orgasm with a soft penis is not easy. This is about the only way I could get relief :lol:.
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