How fast can you get there?

Erectile disfunction, premature ejaculation, delayed orgasm, etc.

Men, under normal circumstances, how quickly can you reach orgasm during intercourse, if speed is your goal?

Under a minute
141
22%
1-2 minutes
170
27%
3-4 minutes
122
19%
5 minutes
50
8%
6-10 minutes
59
9%
10-15 minutes
30
5%
15-20 minutes
15
2%
20-25 minutes
11
2%
25-30 minutes
5
1%
30-35 minutes
2
0%
35-40 minutes
6
1%
40-45 minutes
3
0%
45-60 minutes
3
0%
more than an hour
18
3%
 
Total votes: 635

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Re: What can we DO?

Postby we-is2shy » Tue Aug 23, 2005 11:21 pm

LauraI wrote:I was glad to see discussion of delayed ejaculation on here as I can hardly find anyone who has ever heard of such a thing.


I find "delayed ejaculation" is as much of a problem manually or orally... nearly impossible.

I think you may have another problem if you are able to finish manually.

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Postby MommyOfTriplets2 » Tue Aug 30, 2005 7:53 am

LauraI,

I hope that this doesn't continue to become a problem for you as far as the wanting children part. I have 2 questions for you. 1) has he been to the doctor concerning his in ability to ejaculate? 2) you may have to go through a fertility specialist, if it is only for insemination. In this you wouldn't need fertility treatments nor would he, they would just take his sperm (after he has deposited it in a cup) and inseminate you. That requires no surgery in case you are wondering. It isn't like InVitro at all. They just put it right where it needs to be at that perfect day. PM me for more info on this if you would like. That wouldn't be a costly way of getting pregnant either, since there wouldn't be drugs or surgery involved on wither part.

One thing to remember though, when trying to conceive...watch the "artificial" lubricants. They can kill sperm deader than dead.

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Postby SarahP » Thu Sep 07, 2006 3:52 pm

If speed was my only goal..probably 3 minutes?? I don't enjoy doing that at all though. I hate being rushed.

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Postby Sarah1 » Mon Oct 01, 2007 10:27 pm

I asked DH this question to make sure, and he said 1-2 minutes. This might happen if we are just getting home after being away from each other for a few days. Not my favorite, but I am usually so aroused then that I'm not far behind him. Fortunately for both of us we are both high SD and DH has the ability to go a couple of times in a day, so if I am craving PIV we still have more chances to be together. ::luv2

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Postby SIMPLEMAN911 » Mon Jun 02, 2008 2:49 pm

I DONT GET IT OFTEN SO FOR ME A COUPLE MINS OR I HOLD OUT TILL SHE CUMS MAYBE 10 MINS.

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Postby Mr. Rkt » Mon Jun 02, 2008 6:35 pm

Wow, a bump of an old thread. I can't imagine speed being the goal, but then we rarely do quickies. I suppose 3-4 minutes if I forced myself. I'm not sure though -- We usually do IC for quite a while.

When we were infrequent, I had PE so bad that a few times I climaxed the first time she touched it. :oops: I hated that. Now it takes a fairly concentrated effort to O, but I think I could do it in 3-4 minutes if I had to.
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Postby full_house70 » Tue Jun 03, 2008 7:43 am

I'm answering for DH in the 1-2 mins but like the others, neither of us likes to try to rush things. It's ok for a little change up with a quickie but most of the time, the longer it lasts, the better it is.

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Postby Paul B » Wed Jun 04, 2008 8:41 pm

full_house70 wrote:I'm answering for DH in the 1-2 mins but like the others, neither of us likes to try to rush things.

The question was asked because some guys need a lot of time, even when they would like to climax sooner. From our results:

10% need 10 minutes or longer
5% need 15 minutes or longer
2% need more than an hour

That last one is a real problem, and is what is known as Inhibited Ejaculation.

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Postby ric » Mon Jan 05, 2009 10:56 am

would be curious to see the same question given to the ladies?

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Postby MapleSyrup » Thu May 21, 2009 1:48 pm

Yeah, why is the Men's Orgasm poll in the "Female Orgasm Difficulties" thread??


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Re: How fast can you get there?

Postby ottoman » Wed May 05, 2010 5:40 pm

if speed is your goal?

key to this post...
Without a condom (which hasn't happened since our honeymoon) and my wife lets me go then < 4 mins definitely. With the condom, which she now always requires, i could go indefinitely. I have to be really concentrated and no other factors such as alcohol, late at night or no other O within 48 hours.

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Re: How fast can you get there?

Postby wyseguy » Mon May 17, 2010 2:19 pm

If speed is my goal, a handful of thrusts and I'm done.

If speed isn't my goal, as long as I don't go crazy and really start putting it to DW, I can stop and let the urge subside and last as long as I want. The cruel joke here, is that DW really enjoys being ::xxed good and hard. What I wouldn't give sometimes to meet some of these guys who have problems getting to ejaculation and figuring out how we can split the difference.

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Re: How fast can you get there?

Postby passionman71 » Sat Feb 05, 2011 8:32 am

Less than a minute if I want. But who wants that?
I never want to get in a hurry but DW tends to rush me. She loves the "simultaneous sparkling" and she reaches orgasm fairly soon (10 minutes or less). After she orgasms she wants to stop. She says it not enjoyable immediately after orgasm. She also says she can only go once. Any other ladies like this?
I get great pleasure in giving her pleasure in every way possible.
My orgasm will come but I want her to be satisfied first.

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Re: How fast can you get there?

Postby trdash » Fri Mar 11, 2011 4:27 pm

When I was younger, I could pretty well control when I orgasm. I could be done within a minute or go over an hour and I always stayed pretty erect. I was in complete control and I felt that this was a benefit of not being circumcised.. In the last few years, however, I have found that I have become more sensitive and can have more difficulty controlling it. Sometime, I would like to really pound (because my wife likes it) but then I can’t control it.

Have any other men had this happen with age. And if so, any tips on delaying the sensitivity other than pacing oneself.

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Re: How fast can you get there?

Postby Mark 9:24 » Mon Mar 14, 2011 12:59 pm

How did I miss this poll??

I put 15-20 min.

But I have been having a problem with inhibited ejaculation. http://site.themarriagebed.com/problems ... jaculation

It's my current goal to be able to ejaculate very fast, <5 min, during those times I would like to.
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Re: How fast can you get there?

Postby soxfan1 » Wed Mar 16, 2011 12:31 pm

Considering that we ML about once every 2-3 weeks, once I enter, I barely last 30 seconds.

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Postby ledgemoor » Fri Mar 18, 2011 11:14 am

BoG wrote:I voted.... but then, why would any guy want to have speed as a goal?


Exactly!

Sometimes I merely put it in then BANG, even when speed isn't my goal :-)
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Postby ledgemoor » Fri Mar 18, 2011 11:17 am

Paul B wrote:
itsme wrote:Hey there,

Is there a poll about this for women? I am interested in what the average is...


There is a poll about this, but it's in an odd place because of the post it is attached to. Check it out here.

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Is there a similar survey of "how much stimulation of any kind" does it take women to get there?
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Re: How fast can you get there?

Postby maxxim » Sat Apr 02, 2011 1:28 am

trdash wrote:When I was younger, I could pretty well control when I orgasm. I could be done within a minute or go over an hour and I always stayed pretty erect. I was in complete control and I felt that this was a benefit of not being circumcised.. In the last few years, however, I have found that I have become more sensitive and can have more difficulty controlling it. Sometime, I would like to really pound (because my wife likes it) but then I can’t control it.

Have any other men had this happen with age. And if so, any tips on delaying the sensitivity other than pacing oneself.


My experience would be just the opposite.... little control when I was younger....usually climaxed within a minute or so of penetration...whether slow , fast or no thrusting... Almost always climaxed first, then helped DW orgasm.... my climax was often the key to her climax....

As I have aged at one level DW is very happy that I can last much longer and have more control... feels a bit like the tables have turned.... it is now common for her to climax first and that now takes me..."over the edge"........ but sometimes she still "needs" to wait for me.....somehow that is a bit like a circular argument for us... can be a bit frustrating at times...!! :(
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Re: How fast can you get there?

Postby The Twit » Thu Oct 27, 2011 2:20 pm

I last about a minute in my wife or with her giving me a hand job. Sometimes one good stroke by her and I am gone. The best I found is being well lubricated and using a little desensitizer. Then I can last for a couple of minutes. I also have to watch out on the use of condoms. Many are too tight which causes me to be faster.


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