Erectile dysfunction advice

Erectile disfunction, premature ejaculation, delayed orgasm, etc.
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Erectile dysfunction advice

Postby chaos20019 » Sat Oct 15, 2016 12:24 pm

Hi ladies and gents

My names Chris and have been happily married for nearly 10 years and the sex is usually great but my wife had to have neck surgery recently and it's been nearly 6 weeks since we last had sex.

I will say now that I am slightly over weight and don't have the best of diets. I am committed to being more active as I get up at 6 every morning and hit the treadmill for half hour before the kids get up

And on with the help needed

My wife decided to give me a treat for being so helpful through her recovery and dressed up for me in a really sexy and cute outfit but I found it took alot of help to.get me hard enough to enter her, now I put this down to the fact that she had a Ann summers party a week ago and had hinted at us being intimate the night after but due to kids playing up it didn't happen which really ticked me off and I had stressed myself about when it was going to happen

Or could it be the surprise and shock of seeing her so sexy and cute that caused it

We did manage to get me going after alot of sexy talk and play but if it's just were in bed and decide to make love there's usually not a problem

Thoughts please

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Re: Erectile dysfunction advice

Postby SeekingChange » Sat Oct 15, 2016 2:29 pm

Was this just that one time occurance?

That can happen. Stress can play into it. Also, you could check out the list of symptoms for low testosterone and see if you fit. If so, go in and get a check-up and get tested.
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Re: Erectile dysfunction advice

Postby chaos20019 » Sun Oct 16, 2016 1:03 am

It really seems to be on occasion usually and she does almost all the time manage to stimulate me enough to get me up, but i have also noticed that its happened before when she was dressed up but again i was worrying about the biopsy appointment for the said surgery last time, so i think i need to have her dress up again and see what happens

i have looked up low testosterone symptoms but i would say that i only really have the one of erection problems and its only on occasion.

thank you for your advice

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Re: Erectile dysfunction advice

Postby txtwindad » Sun Oct 16, 2016 5:08 am

What is your age? .
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Pour it on me so's I don't melt.
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Re: Erectile dysfunction advice

Postby OldBear » Sun Oct 16, 2016 6:11 am

If you generally are the initiator of sexual intimacy, when she unusually initiates, you may be experiencing the uncertainty of the role reversal. This has happened to me. When Mrs. Oldbear is unusually randy and 'takes things into her own hands' - not so typical for us - it causes me to 'clutch-up.' For me, it creates a bit of performance angst. Because she realizes that she's ahead of me, she gives me time to rev-up,' and my worry about performance dissipates and we are off to the races.

You mentioned that your DW gave you some runway to get revved-up. Terrrific! Focus on that success rather than on the thought, 'you're raring to go and being so generous to me . . . what if I can't get there for you.' The more she initiates, the more you will become accustom to this role reversal.

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Re: Erectile dysfunction advice

Postby tjw » Sun Oct 16, 2016 7:52 am

i have looked up low testosterone symptoms but i would say that i only really have the one of erection problems and its only on occasion.


Go to the doc. Get checked out, the blood work-up, and the other follow-up testing as prescribed. This erection problem could be pointing to atherosclerosis which is now in an early stage of progression, hormone imbalances, etc. It might be best viewed as a "wake-up call" which may prove out to be nothing, but has the potential of saving you a lot of misery over the next couple of decades if the right changes are made, diet, medication, exercise, etc.

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Re: Erectile dysfunction advice

Postby chaos20019 » Tue Nov 01, 2016 2:18 pm

Hey guys

Sorry it's been awhile but here's an update

Me and the wife are having brilliant sex right now it's been twice yes TWICE!! In a week hopefully tonight will be 3 (wink wink)

I don't think I have any problem that's not psychological I think that as the main instigater of sex my mind and down below has a problem with being surprised or my wife taking the lead

So we have agreed to try new things and she will dress up more but let me know in advance so I can pshyc myself up so to speak

Also I have to admit I wasn't fully truthful as I didn't think porn wasn't a problem but I took he decision to not see anotber second of it and if I need to take care of myself if my wife isn't in the mood etc then I will think of her and since trying that my alone time has been far more intense and pleasurable

So thank you guys for the advice

May God Bless You All

Chris x


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