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Erectile disfunction, premature ejaculation, delayed orgasm, etc.
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Re: ED and self confidence

Postby Brianna » Mon Mar 13, 2017 11:03 am

Thanks guys.

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Re: ED and self confidence

Postby OldBear » Mon Mar 13, 2017 11:32 am

My perspective is similar to Jokerman. When we travel I always give Mrs. Oldbear 'space' for her time in the bathroom. It's not a modesty issue, it's a personal time and space issue. We love shower time together and being naked or parading around naked is enjoyable and no big deal for us.

Knowing your DH's age (over 60), the ED issue sounds to be a separate issue to address. The fact that he is proceeeding to get a penile implant suggests that he (the two,of you) have exhausted possible reasons for his ED (based on your your previous postings). If he is intimately, visually, physically tentative with you, sexually - self-conscious with being naked together, touching, etc. - that's an issue to address. As you've written he is a 'newbie' to the marriage bed and an 'old dog learning new tricks' is not always easy, as this 'old bear' knows all too well! If he's self-confident outside the bedroom, he ought to be able to be so in the bedroom.

One other question/thought. Who's the main initiator for sex - you or him? If you chiefly initiate, it may cause him to 'clutch.' He may be experiencing performance pressure; one sure factor in causing his difficultly to achieve and sustain an erection.

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Re: ED and self confidence

Postby Brianna » Tue Mar 14, 2017 5:47 am

We are at a place where our sexual time is scheduled. No one initiates. It's mutual.

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Re: ED and self confidence

Postby TJC » Tue Mar 14, 2017 6:07 am

I tend to agree with every one else, that you're probably reading too much into this particular incident.
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Decided to get a penile implant

Postby Brianna » Mon Apr 24, 2017 3:58 pm

For those who are interested, my DH had the surgery Thursday of last week. The procedure was done in the hospital. It took about 2 hours and he stayed overnight. Now he's resting and taking paid meds. Later this week he'll remove the bandages and become more active. For now he's basically on bed rest.

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Re: Decided to get a penile implant

Postby beekeeper » Mon Apr 24, 2017 4:17 pm

One week so you don't rip the stitches?

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Re: Decided to get a penile implant

Postby Brianna » Mon Apr 24, 2017 8:06 pm

I don't know what the reason is, but he's so sore he can barely walk to the bathroom.

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Re: Decided to get a penile implant

Postby beekeeper » Mon Apr 24, 2017 8:19 pm

After my prostate was removed there was a long delay for the stitches to heal.

I did a bit too much too soon and had a lot of blood in my urine for a while.

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Re: Decided to get a penile implant

Postby Brianna » Mon Apr 24, 2017 9:19 pm

He's not moving off the couch. He can't walk upstairs to our bedroom so he's in his man cave with the MLB channel.

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Re: UPDATE- Decided to get a penile implant

Postby Brianna » Sat Jul 15, 2017 8:31 am

Follow up visit to the urologist happened this week. The implant is in perfect position and DH healed well. He also started exercising again. The doctor started pumping and DH experienced pain in the scrotum. This is normal. He needs to pump as frequently as possible for the next two weeks to condition the area. He can only pump about 1/3 erect at this point. Today I felt his semi-erect penis. It's a complete improvement over his past erections. Even at 33% he was rock hard!

The price tag for this has been huge. The hospital bill was almost $100k. Insurance covered almost all of it though.

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Re: UPDATE- Decided to get a penile implant

Postby tjw » Sat Jul 15, 2017 12:47 pm

That's terrific news. Thanks for sharing your testimony to God's goodness with us. We know He's good, but we never tire of hearing just how good.....

You two are on your way to a better life together. Your H will feel so much better about himself and you will enjoy the benefits of his physical and emotional restoration.


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