Refractory period question

Erectile disfunction, premature ejaculation, delayed orgasm, etc.
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Refractory period question

Postby rdierdorf » Fri Oct 13, 2017 4:08 am

I'd like to hear if other men have similar experience. I'm a high drive husband, would love sex daily if possible. But when we have sex two days n a row, or even twice in three day, the second time is very difficult for me to climax. I get there, but it's an uphill climb. But if we wait at least three days, with two days off, everything works like a charm. I know refractory period varies with age and health, fatigue, and from man to man. Is this my refractory period getting real long with age. I'm 60. In the past twice in one day was very doable, even if it rarely happened. My main issue seems to be I can't maintain an erection well other to finish easily, even with Cialis or Levitra. But if we wait, I don't need the pills at all. Any thoughts, men?
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Re: Refractory period question

Postby SeekingChange » Fri Oct 13, 2017 6:41 am

I am not a man, but my husband deals with something similar, he is 43. It's almost like clock work, if we have three times fairly close together (morning, night, morning or n, m, n), the third time he won't climax. The second time might be iffy. It doesn't stop him ftom trying. His testosterone is low, but this issue has been off and on throughout our marriage, I just figured it was normal, and never thought much of it.
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Re: Refractory period question

Postby C_Brown » Sat Oct 14, 2017 7:03 pm

I thought the refractory period was about how long you needed to wait before you could achieve another erection. I'm kind of the same way where 3 times the same day (like on a laycation) and the third time I don't climax. I'm not sure if this is because 'the well is dry', or if it just takes longer than what DW is willing to give it. Normally I can get an erection a few hours after the last time with the right stimulation though. Saw palmetto tends to cause me to PE, and I thought perhaps if I took some after round 1 or 2 that I'd be in better shape for round 3 but haven't tested that yet.
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Re: Refractory period question

Postby rdierdorf » Sat Oct 14, 2017 7:18 pm

Actually, refractory period is the time when it is impossible for a man to ejaculate again. I can and do get erections during this time, but an orgasm is really difficult to achieve. But waiting an extra day works wonders for me.
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Re: Refractory period question

Postby happilymarriedhubby » Tue Oct 17, 2017 8:13 am

Refractory period does vary and at sixty it could be that long. A couple of things you said may be affecting it. There has been anecdotal evidence that ED pills increase the time to climax in some users (personal experience, the few times I've needed them). Also you mentioned being high drive, if your DW is low drive the second or third go around she may not be as into it so you may not being getting as many subconscious inputs from her reactions as the first time.


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