MayDayGirl wrote:Good stuff, Seahawk........would you mind telling us exactly what you mean by a 'risk-averse person?' I'm curious because I would describe both myself and my DH that way.
In reading your posts these years I have a picture of you as NOT risk averse in your marriage relationship. A risk averse woman would never seek new adventures in bed, but you have a closet full of role-play costumes. You have described a woman who will go to any length to please her husband, and to inject fun, vitality, excitement and newness into her marriage bed.
If RS's theory holds true then that would mean that you are either not risk averse in his definition, or you perceive absolutely no risk in pursuing high-adventure in sex, probably because you have an excellent relationship with an excellent man who would rather die than criticize your efforts.
Likewise your husband is either not risk averse or perceives no risk in putting himself out for you, for the same reasons. Likely you are the "excellent wife" of Proverbs 31:10-12, the one who is so hard to find. From what you have written, that sounds about right.
10 An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is above jewels.
11 The heart of her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack of gain
12 She does him good and not evil, all the days of her life.
This describes a wife for whom a man can put himself out and never fear that she will reject or ridicule him, so if she asks him to pull on the Superman costume and cape, and leap over the bed for her, he will do it without hesitation because there is NO WAY she would ever make him regret it.
Wanting to become like Job, as described in the Bible, the book of Job chapter 29. Hence the screen name.