How often do men really need to ejaculate?

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Re: How often do men really need to ejaculate?

Postby ledgemoor » Wed Apr 30, 2014 9:53 am

I was intrigued by this bit: "When men engaged in a "ten-day depletion experience," ejaculating an average of 2.4 times per day, their sperm output remained below pre-depletion levels for more than five months."

Do you mean that they remained at post-depletion levels?
If this is true, maybe it is God's way of giving the couple some alone-time before children come along. Assuming you don't get pregnant on your honeymoon.

Anyway, congratulations! I hope you totally deplete yourself and stay depleted for many many weeks :lol:.

Not to derail the thread, but PIV sex 2x or 3x per day may be more than her vagina can take at first, seeing she is not sexually active. Discuss alternatives :D.
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Re: How often do men really need to ejaculate?

Postby SquarePants » Wed Apr 30, 2014 11:10 am

Stumoo wrote:I was intrigued by this bit: "When men engaged in a "ten-day depletion experience," ejaculating an average of 2.4 times per day, their sperm output remained below pre-depletion levels for more than five months."


This is from a 1963 article. Their data was from an experiment which had six donors in the experimental group. Each man showed high variability in sperm production throughout the experiment, and there was also high variability between men. I haven’t heard that their results have been reproduced. I’ve generally read that actual sperm production (not to be confused with semen volume) doesn’t change overall, regardless of ejaculation frequency. I’ve recently read from multiple sources that sperm quality does increase with more frequent ejaculations.

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Re: How often do men really need to ejaculate?

Postby Learning1 » Wed Apr 30, 2014 4:32 pm

Stumoo wrote:This is interesting to me, as I am about to start having a LOT more orgasms (well, from what FW says, I should be!).
I don't know how many I'll have over my honeymoon (but I might be counting. You know, for fun), but if we go 2-3 times a day I wont be back to normal for 5 months, assuming we slow down a bit afterwards. That's a weird thought :?

ledgemoor wrote:Anyway, congratulations! I hope you totally deplete yourself and stay depleted for many many weeks :lol:.
Not to derail the thread, but PIV sex 2x or 3x per day may be more than her vagina can take at first, seeing she is not sexually active. Discuss alternatives :D.

Hi Stumoo - just want to echo what Legdemoor said, that PIV might not be possible 2-3 times a day for your wife. Hope it is ! DH and I considered ourselves happy & fortunate to be successful on wedding night, our Honeymoon we were PIV every 48-72 hours as I was quite sore. Again I strongly agree with Ledgemoor, discuss alternatives. I do not know what you wife's comfort level is, but I had read up on OS/MS before so I at least had some idea of what to expect & what to do. She may want to do the same.

Sorry to derail the thread.
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Re: How often do men really need to ejaculate?

Postby Sergeant Bob » Sat Aug 16, 2014 11:12 am

I recently took a two-week trip with a bunch of great guys. I'm mid-30s and throughout the trip I didn't much think about sexy time with DW. The last few days though DW was obviously thinking about sexy time based on our text and phone exchanges. (Side note: what a blessing knowing she craves me physically). So naturally I was turned on A LOT over that last few days. Not once was I in physical pain or NEED for release. I was excited to hold onto it for when we could join together again. So. 2 weeks was not too long from a purely physical standpoint.
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Re: How often do men really need to ejaculate?

Postby Redsman » Thu Sep 22, 2016 12:01 pm

Anonymous wrote:I believe that if I did not ejaculate for a year I would go stark raving crazy,I'm not sure that it's possible FOR ME
I will be the first to admit to being cranky after 3 or 4 days without sex.then I get bitter and angry.
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Agreed. DW and I ml every other day to every two days; I've noticed that by the end of the "every two day" mark, as it were, that pressure is there, but dismissed. By day 3, it is significant and hard to mentally and physically ignore. By day 4 (if on period and no intimacy is occurring), I become "Captain Crankypants" and am no fun to be around. DW has even gotten to the point before where she said she was sorry for not "helping me in my time of need". While I work at not being that way, it's just like having a tummy ache---you don't feel good when you have it and want to get rid of it. Except this can be controlled!

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Re: How often do men really need to ejaculate?

Postby OldBear » Thu Sep 22, 2016 10:23 pm

In the Prostate Health thread, I posted this advice from my urologist, a well-regarded Christian doctor, during a recent conversation regarding my prostate health after years of care for an enlarged prostate and its impact on urinary function.

He said the following, "You should have an orgasm about three (3) times per week. What we have learned is that the male body sets a thermostat for prostate evacuation at an early age - around 20. Most people assume that as men age that the need for the prostate to be relieved of fluid diminishes; that is not so. In fact, the biological fact is that the prostate needs to be evacuated regularly. As men age, their drive diminishes and they think that it parallels the biological health needs of their prostate. So, you ought to ejaculate three times per week." He then added, "I've encouraged my patients to share this fact with their wives although they probably won't believe you! Nonetheless it's the healthy thing to do and important to prostate health."

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Re: How often do men really need to ejaculate?

Postby Job29Man » Fri Sep 23, 2016 5:19 am

I seem to remember reading something once (don't recall who wrote it, or where) that men do not as often feel the "need" to ejaculate if they are in a heavily male-dominated environment, such as a men-only camping/hiking/hunting/fishing type activity with lots of good comradery, or a military obligation like a deployment in a battle zone, or especially actually conducting war and going on dangerous missions.

If I'm at home with Sarah and we go more than 5 days, even during extreme business, I get pretty agitated. But if I'm out on a hunting trip with the guys, sleeping on the ground, carrying heavy backpacks over mountainous trails, and especially actually getting a kill and doing all the skinning/gutting/packing out the meat activities, it seems I scarcely even think about sex for up to 9 days.
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Re: How often do men really need to ejaculate?

Postby Unfulfilled » Fri Sep 23, 2016 11:23 am

Scarcely thinking about sex for up to 9 days, no matter what I'm doing is something even after 50 years old I have yet to experience. While I can wait for sex, I know I get on edge and my thoughts go sexual after about 2 days, and each passing day after that the sexual thoughts and urges only get stronger and more frequent.

9 days! No way!

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Very interesting health backed info. It seems that I may have found this to be true by happenstance. As when or if DW and I have sex about three times a week, I feel MUCH more relaxed and at ease and comfortable and less agitated and irritable but adding a 3rd time (and even more!!!) seems to be a noticeable difference almost like a threshold.

And your Dr. Is 100% correct, my DW would not believe that this is in fact scientific or medical/biological and she would see it as just another way for me to "justify" or pressure her for more and frequent sex. So it will remain unsaid.

I guess if we have sex twice a week I can "take care" of #3 myself. I'd rather keep the peace and my health than put what she would perceive as pressure on DW who resists anything much sexual of she perceives it as pressure. She pretty much defaults that it is pressure whenever I bring up anything about sex. Even when it is absolutely not in any way "pressure".

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Re: How often do men really need to ejaculate?

Postby LiamJ » Sun Dec 18, 2016 10:39 am

This is a hard one for me. The more often my wife and I have sex, the more I need to ejaculate; the less often we have sex, the lower my need to ejaculate. Lately, we have been having sex most nights, and when I miss even one night, I can't stop thinking about sex all day long.

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Re: How often do men really need to ejaculate?

Postby rdierdorf » Sun Dec 18, 2016 8:58 pm

I'm physically okay with several days, although I do start to feel actual pressure from fluid build up in my prostate and seminal vesicles. I used to think the pressure was more in my mind, but I'm convinced now that there is a very definite physiological aspect of it. If it goes more than a three days, I'll be rather tense and cranky, although it's my responsibility to behave better than I feel.

Having said that, my desire for sex is strong enough for every day, even more than once a day. That's not possible, given our life circumstances, but I've come to realize that what I crave is the intimacy and bonding with my wife.. During the years when she was gatekeeping and refusing me, I finally came to understand that what I really wanted wasn't just sex, but closeness with my wife. If it was just orgasms I was after, masturbation would take care of that. But I wanted to be closer to her. My love language is touch, non-sexual as well as sexual, and I was missing my wife. She became convicted of her refusal, but I had to change my attitude, as well.

The upshot of all this is that if you ask how often I need to ejaculate, physically 2 to 3 times a week, for sexual satisfaction and health. But if you ask how often I need sexual intimacy with my wife, i would say I can't get enough. The sex drive is a lot more than just physical.
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Re: How often do men really need to ejaculate?

Postby be64 » Sun Dec 18, 2016 10:13 pm

LiamJ wrote:This is a hard one for me. The more often my wife and I have sex, the more I need to ejaculate; the less often we have sex, the lower my need to ejaculate. Lately, we have been having sex most nights, and when I miss even one night, I can't stop thinking about sex all day long.

Of course it would be a woman who would write such an article. Someone who had never had the need or urge to ejaculate. I think it is nonsense for women to be telling men how often they need to ejaculate. Can you imagine the outrage women would have if a man wrote an article telling women how many orgasms per month they should have? If you base the number of ejaculations/orgasms a man should have on the frequency of wet dreams he would have if he abstained from sex then I guess a women would never need to have sex since she has no build up of fluids which need to be released through sex. A male ejaculation/orgasms is not just a biological need that can be met with wet dreams or very infrequent sex. Sex is much more than that.

As for myself I agree with the above quote. The more sex I get the more I want. However the longer I go without sex the more desperate I get for it.

While frequent ejaculation may not be "necessary" for some men, I can attest to the fact that infrequent ejaculation can cause miserable health conditions. I have always avoided masturbation and pornography and from the time I was a late teenager until I got married I suffered from frequent, sometimes daily testicle pain which was brought in by pressure in the prostate causing reflux into the testicles. I guess the doctors I went to were too proper to tell me to masturbate, but when I was in college a doctor told me the problem would go away when I got married. It did go away for the most part but going more than a few days without ejaculation will still cause the same problem. Luckily my wife and I have not gone longer than two days between sex for many years.

I have also found that I do not get sexual satiety. Although I lose ability to have sex right after ejaculation I do dot lose desire for sex. Although I'm unable to have sex again shortly after having it, I still want it and I'm thinking about the next time I'll get it. Often times my sex drive is strongest the morning after having sex. I always think I about sex and its always on my agenda.

Besides being a physical need for me sex is an emotional/physycological need for me. The intense emotional and physical pleasure I get from sex is so overwhelming and important to me that I can hardly function without it.
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Re: How often do men really need to ejaculate?

Postby El Husbandido » Mon Dec 19, 2016 2:07 pm

Lots of conversation over need but not much in terms of want. I want to ejaculate every other day or so and thankfully my wife is on board with that. I don't believe for a second that I ever "need" to.

I think it is a question of desire, opportunity, physical health best practice (maybe) and life circumstance. I don't believe there are many, but certainly some men are called to celibacy. I don't believe they ever "need" to ejacualte... or if they do, then, that is the place for wet-dreams.

It seems the only way you could definitely answer the question would be to follow a large set of celibate men and track how often they have wet dreams... them you would have a scientific basis for determining how often a mans physiology "needs" to ejaculate.
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