LiamJ wrote:This is a hard one for me. The more often my wife and I have sex, the more I need to ejaculate; the less often we have sex, the lower my need to ejaculate. Lately, we have been having sex most nights, and when I miss even one night, I can't stop thinking about sex all day long.
Of course it would be a woman who would write such an article. Someone who had never had the need or urge to ejaculate. I think it is nonsense for women to be telling men how often they need to ejaculate. Can you imagine the outrage women would have if a man wrote an article telling women how many orgasms per month they should have? If you base the number of ejaculations/orgasms a man should have on the frequency of wet dreams he would have if he abstained from sex then I guess a women would never need to have sex since she has no build up of fluids which need to be released through sex. A male ejaculation/orgasms is not just a biological need that can be met with wet dreams or very infrequent sex. Sex is much more than that.
As for myself I agree with the above quote. The more sex I get the more I want. However the longer I go without sex the more desperate I get for it.
While frequent ejaculation may not be "necessary" for some men, I can attest to the fact that infrequent ejaculation can cause miserable health conditions. I have always avoided masturbation and pornography and from the time I was a late teenager until I got married I suffered from frequent, sometimes daily testicle pain which was brought in by pressure in the prostate causing reflux into the testicles. I guess the doctors I went to were too proper to tell me to masturbate, but when I was in college a doctor told me the problem would go away when I got married. It did go away for the most part but going more than a few days without ejaculation will still cause the same problem. Luckily my wife and I have not gone longer than two days between sex for many years.
I have also found that I do not get sexual satiety. Although I lose ability to have sex right after ejaculation I do dot lose desire for sex. Although I'm unable to have sex again shortly after having it, I still want it and I'm thinking about the next time I'll get it. Often times my sex drive is strongest the morning after having sex. I always think I about sex and its always on my agenda.
Besides being a physical need for me sex is an emotional/physycological need for me. The intense emotional and physical pleasure I get from sex is so overwhelming and important to me that I can hardly function without it.