padsnd wrote:If the person is unmarried, the question becomes one of lust. How much is too much? Any. It has nothing to do with the ejaculation. It has everything to do with the lust--even if ejaculation doesn't happen.
But scripture doesn't say
anything about it being wrong for a single person to lust for another single person. Most people apply Jesus' statement about lusting after a woman amounts to committing adultery
(note He doesn't say fornication) to single people, but that is overreaching, IMO, and placing an impossible burden on many single men.
Not everyone is going to have nocturnal emissions. I have hand only three in my lifetime. They weren't because I had gone a while without sex or masturbating. The dreams that accompanied them were way more morally disturbing than anything I might have thought about while masturbating.
Sleep is next to impossible when I need relief. If I wait too long for relief, I go from uncomfortable to downright sore.
I really don't see how any normal man can go a year or longer without ejaculation. Either they are having it and are not aware of it, semen is not being created, or the mechanism that stores it in the seminal vesicles is not working. In the latter two cases, their "ability" is due to a bodily defect, and should not be taken as something to strive for.
All of our other bodily subsystems work on a use-it-or-lose-it basis. I don't see how our sexual functions could be any different.
Deelmo, why not accept whatever your wife can provide during her illness? At the very least you can look at her while taking care of yourself. That provides SOME emotional connectness.
Everything you ever wanted in life is just outside your comfort zone (Jamie Lee Curtis)