Birth Affecting Sex

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Birth Affecting Sex

Postby blondie » Thu Mar 26, 2015 7:06 am

Don't know where to go with this one but I was intrigued by a give away comment at a healing centre I go to once a month at weekends for training. They specialise in emotional damage, deliverance and general healing. They have centres all over the world now.

At last weeks lecture the lady teacher had a giveway comment which wasn't part of the teaching. It just slipped out and is obviously what she believes. She has been in the healing ministry for about 25 years and ministers to all sorts of situations.

She said that she believes that people born through ceasarian birth would need much more sexual stimulus in marriage. Apparently going through the birth canal was quite important in the sense of being squeezed all over and being sensitized to touch. Where this wasn't the case the baby would need much more physical stimulus, the first 18 hours being the most crucial. They seemed to wrap babies in bands in the time of Christ which might possibly have produced some physical assurance.

The thought stuck for some reason and I wondered how true this was. I wondered if liking bondage or spanking was something to do with this as it seems to me like they need much more stimulus to get excited to start off with. Most of these can be lectured that sex is about love and not about that and that if they had learned to be sensitive to touch they wouldn't need that. Does wanting to be bound possibly something to do with not being squeezed enough at birth?

We know that ducks that are fed by humans from the egg get a fixation on the one that feeds them and even follow airplanes if that person is in the plane. Similarly the things that happen at birth, particularly in the first eighteen hours could possibly set our sexual dna. Whilst we can change morally it seems to me that our sexual dna is very difficult to change if indeed it can be.

Does anyone have any thoughts about this? Does anyone know that they had a ceasarian birth and have any views on this. This might go nowhere and might be a lot of rubbish but it has intrigued me somewhat.
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Re: Birth Affecting Sex

Postby El Husbandido » Thu Mar 26, 2015 11:33 am

I don't have anything solid to hang it on, but in my opinion this sounds like a load of hippy-dippy mumbo jumbo.
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Re: Birth Affecting Sex

Postby ke1122 » Thu Mar 26, 2015 2:48 pm

Are you implying the reason I like bondage is because I was born via caesarian? I don't know if that's true, I can achieve climax [mod edit] fairly easily with just vanilla sex. Or my hand. :lol:

In all seriousness, I do sort of believe certain kinks may be in our dna. My mom has implied that she's into bondage as well. And I know she and my sisters have pretty high sex drives (as do I.) Take that as you will.

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Re: Birth Affecting Sex

Postby blondie » Fri Mar 27, 2015 2:35 am

I am not implying anything Ke but the question does intreague me. I do think things come down the generational line good and bad. I've never thought of sexual dna being inherited but you may have a point. Who knows if it has to do with your ceasarian birth. All this lady says is that she has noticed that people born by ceasarian need greater sexual stimulation to come alive in the bedroom. She ministered to me as a demonstration ministry in front of others recently following my serious accident 10 years ago and lifted off trauma and others things and I felt it leave my head and I feel so much better so it makes me respect what she says. She works in a team but obviously is very effective at what she does. All done in the name of Jesus of course.
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Re: Birth Affecting Sex

Postby Barbarah-Hephizibah » Fri Mar 27, 2015 4:39 pm

blondie wrote:... the question does intreague me.

It is an interesting assertion. ~BH

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Re: Birth Affecting Sex

Postby Nova » Fri Mar 27, 2015 6:34 pm

It sounds extremely suspect, at best.
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Re: Birth Affecting Sex

Postby blondie » Sat Mar 28, 2015 2:44 am

It was not so much an assertion just something she had noticed through her ministry to what must be thousands. Although she had come to believe it she is not making a doctrine of it. Trying to get to a root of a problem can take you into a persons childhood sometimes way back to their birth and beyond in case of generational things passed down. If it doesn't fit one doesn't have to wear it. My post was more out of interest than trying to make any points.
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Re: Birth Affecting Sex

Postby Barbarah-Hephizibah » Sat Mar 28, 2015 8:43 am

blondie wrote:Trying to get to a root of a problem can take you into a persons childhood sometimes ...

I agree, Blondie. Definitely, that was part of my healing journey. Not a pleasant trek at times. But, the outcome, amazing. :D Due to, His Amazing grace! ~BH

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Re: Birth Affecting Sex

Postby Ballad » Sat Mar 28, 2015 2:10 pm

I am very skeptical.

blondie wrote:All this lady says is that she has noticed that people born by ceasarian need greater sexual stimulation to come alive in the bedroom. ... It was not so much an assertion just something she had noticed through her ministry to what must be thousands.

So that would be a statistically significant population... but has she consistently surveyed (and received honest answers from) ALL of them on this topic? Rather, I think the most likely explanation is that she is relying on anecdotal evidence and confirmation bias. Besides which, if she is in a healing ministry, isn't she most likely hearing about the sex lives of people who are struggling to find sexual fulfillment?

Personal counterexamples if you like: I was a C-section baby, and during my teenage years I could almost always ejaculate very quickly when masturbating. Bondage has very little appeal to me, sadomasochism none.
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Re: Birth Affecting Sex

Postby blondie » Tue Mar 31, 2015 10:18 am

I don't think she was making any rules just an observation. Sometimes the same thing happening does not have the same affect on everyone. Certainly the touch you get as a baby is important I think. If you want an incite into this kind of ministry read "Lynda" about a girl who fell off a cliff written by her. It shows the depth of healing that can be experienced even after the doctors have done their best.
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Re: Birth Affecting Sex

Postby blondie » Tue Mar 31, 2015 10:22 am

Barbarah-Hephizibah wrote:
blondie wrote:Trying to get to a root of a problem can take you into a persons childhood sometimes ...

I agree, Blondie. Definitely, that was part of my healing journey. Not a pleasant trek at times. But, the outcome, amazing. :D Due to, His Amazing grace! ~BH


I have spoken to a lot of people who have experienced the same Barbarah. God can show supernaturally where the root of a problem is. If it is in childhood so be it. That's where the healing will be needed.
It is marriage itself, not the marriage bed, that will be likely to hinder us from waiting uninterruptedly on God. C S Lewis


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