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Withdrawal method

Postby TexasChristian » Thu Feb 28, 2013 3:08 pm

I curious how many people use withdrawal as their only method of birth control. How successful has it been for you? Where do you usually ejaculate at?

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Re: Withdrawal method

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Re: Withdrawal method

Postby lee'swife » Thu Feb 28, 2013 4:35 pm

We use that method. We did just have a surprise baby but that is due to that I was off on my tracking and told him it was ok to stay in. He goes into a towel most of the time.
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Re: Withdrawal method

Postby tentsofpurple » Thu Feb 28, 2013 6:41 pm

We do, kind of. We track my fertility using a Ladycomp and on days where I am potentially fertile he pulls out, the rest of the time he doesn't. We've been using this method for about a year and half successfully. Like anything its not 100% but we are ok with that.

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Postby LadyP » Fri Mar 08, 2013 10:36 am

we have in the past - when we were using the diaphragm and I hadn't anticipated needing it that night (one of the reasons we switched!) and after the baby was born, before I could have the Mirena inserted. He'd [ejaculate] on my belly or back or thighs, and we never had any problems with it. I don't use any of the charting methods because my cycles are too irregular to make it worth the effort.
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Re: Withdrawal method

Postby gingeroo147 » Sat Apr 27, 2013 7:00 pm

we do this and have been on and off for years. it works better than any thing else we have tried (pills, the ring, the patch, iud, condoms, sponge...all part of a long annoying uncomfortable story)

however, my dh had chemo as a young teenager and may or may not have been affected by that...
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Re: Withdrawal method

Postby cwcaesar » Thu May 02, 2013 2:01 pm

We tried this method, and were surprised by our third child. Had success with this method for a little over a year before becoming pregnant. I have since had a vasectomy, to mitigate the surprises. If on top, I would finish on her belly. If I was underneath, I would usually finish on her rear end/all over me.

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Re: Withdrawal method

Postby George B. » Thu May 02, 2013 10:39 pm

the issue with withdrawal is that in order for it to be effective, you have to withdraw well before your orgasm, not just as you're [ejaculating]. this means that you have to finish yourself off by hand or your DW has to in some way.

for us, we ended up using condoms for the finish, just putting it on right at the end, which was more satisfying
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Re: Withdrawal method

Postby sexwithinmarriage » Fri May 03, 2013 7:04 am

We use this method, but wife is very careful about taking her temperature every morning, and we avoid PIV near fertile days.
Where? Usually just pull out and ejaculate...wherever. If we're doing missionary, on her stomach/breasts/legs, if we're doing doggy style, rear & back.
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Re: Withdrawal method

Postby TxGuy » Mon May 27, 2013 2:04 pm

Probably about 4 or 5 years ago and wanted my DW to get off of the pill and also the Depo shot she had been on. She was approaching 35 and is a smoker. I wanted to get her off of those things and the awful side effects that they all carry with them. She did. We occasionally use a condom, but for the most part we use the withdrawal method you refer to and some people call it the "pull" method. It works great for us and we neither one have considered having her get back on the bad birth control. Where I finish depends on what position we are ML. If it is doggie style, then on the back and if missionary then just on her torso. Doesn't take but a couple of Huggies baby wipes to clean up and you are all done. Works for us and is great to have had her off of bc for so long now.
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Re: Withdrawal method

Postby Job29Man » Mon May 27, 2013 2:10 pm

That's our method.

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Re: Withdrawal method

Postby Paul B » Mon May 27, 2013 9:15 pm

It's never sounded like fun to me, but statistically it is a good as condoms. Once a man knows his body he can pull out late enough that he will climax without any additional stimulation, but her hand or pushing against her body will make it nicer for him or finish him if he pulls out too soon.
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Re: Withdrawal method

Postby sexwithinmarriage » Tue May 28, 2013 6:04 am

Job29Man wrote:That's our method.

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.... are you saying it works, or doesn't work?
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Re: Withdrawal method

Postby meglettx » Tue May 28, 2013 8:41 am

Job29Man wrote:That's our method.

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Re: Withdrawal method

Postby mom210 » Wed May 29, 2013 3:01 pm

sexwithinmarriage wrote:
Job29Man wrote:That's our method.

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.... are you saying it works, or doesn't work?

Well....it works as long as you pull out in time.....don't have any "drips "..and also combine it with an infertile time of the month.

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Re: Withdrawal method

Postby Kyra » Thu May 30, 2013 12:20 am

Many people say the withdrawal method is very unsafe, they claim there can be sperm in the pre-ejaculatory fluid. But awhile ago I read (here on TMB or somewhere else, can't remember) that there can only be sperm present in the pre-ejaculatory fluid when a man hasn't urinated since the last LM-session. In other words: when the tubes haven't been rinsed since the last ejaculation. :wink:
Although DH and I don't use the withdrawal method and therefore I can't say if it's true, I think this is interesting information. So gentlemen please visit the bathroom after ejaculation when you have mutiple LM-sessions.

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Withdrawal method

Postby VikingJ » Thu May 30, 2013 12:30 am

There are good statistics about different contraceptive methods and how successful they are. I am on my phone at the moment so I didn't find a good source in English.
If you have better control than the average you will have better success with all methods as most pregnancies happen because of a failure to follow the guidelines for your chosen method.
To be honest I don't think that you want to be the one who has full control in the MB, it's kind of contradictory to ecstasy and fun. ;)

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Re: Withdrawal method

Postby Job29Man » Sun Jun 02, 2013 6:20 am

sexwithinmarriage wrote:
Job29Man wrote:That's our method.

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.... are you saying it works, or doesn't work?


I was totally tongue in cheek. I can't imagine a more frustrating way to end intercourse than by withdrawal. No, I'd never use withdrawal.
But I wasn't kidding about the father of ten part.

There is the old joke about the rhythm method that I'll paraphrase here...

Q: What do you call couples who use the withdrawal method for contraception?
A: Parents
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Re: Withdrawal method

Postby HisLadybug » Mon Jun 03, 2013 10:09 am

We use this right now. Our intention was to first use the diaphragm but turns out, I'm allergic to the spermicide. Then we were using condoms but neither of us like the feel of them.

It's not ideal but it's better than using a condom. Another baby at this juncture would not be wise for us. We've got some things to take care of before we allow for #2.
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Re: Withdrawal method

Postby meglettx » Tue Jun 04, 2013 6:57 am

HisLadybug wrote:We use this right now. Our intention was to first use the diaphragm but turns out, I'm allergic to the spermicide. Then we were using condoms but neither of us like the feel of them.

It's not ideal but it's better than using a condom. Another baby at this juncture would not be wise for us. We've got some things to take care of before we allow for #2.


I can't speak for personal experience as DH and I are okay with starting our family right away and thus haven't tried condoms but it seems to me I'd rather use condoms than withdrawal. My sister and her DH use withdrawal because she can't stand condoms and so far it's working for them, but they were only married in August of 2012. :D


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