ophelia wrote:missunique wrote:Counting days isn't reliable if your cycle is becoming irregular.
I know. That's why I'm wondering if it's time to throw in the towel. It is very unappealing to me to have to avoid sex or use protection for the majority of my cycle. If I have a short cycle, which I normally do, then dh gets to go condom free for about 6 days
Thank you for all the links BTW.
Forgive me if I'm wrong, but you seem to be under the impression that counting days is the most reliable way of judging fertility? That's not really FAM, because FAM involves determining fertility on a day to day basis. If your cycles are getting irregular then you need to either change methods (throw in the towel as you said) or take classes (I would suggest either Billings or Creighton) to help you to determine your mucus patterns reliably. They usually say it takes a minimum of 3 months of cycle tracking with an instructor to be able to confidently interpret your cycles so it does take a commitment.