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Birth Control

Postby GuyNamedSteve » Sun Mar 26, 2017 2:01 pm

Way back at the beginning of marriage my wife and I used condoms. While effective, I now realize they definitely get in the way of intimacy. For the last 6 or 7 years we haven't worried about birth control because we've been being fruitful and multiplying. Now it may be time to consider this again. I don't like condoms for the reasons listed above. Birth control pills for her I'm not a fan of because of how they affect hormones and such and I've heard if you get pregnant they can cause a miscarriage. Not a fan of a vasectomy as I've heard it will give you an uncomfortable full feeling since things can't escape. Curious to hear what others have used after having a quiver full :)

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Re: Birth Control

Postby hotrod » Sun Mar 26, 2017 4:26 pm

Vasectomy! Best thing we ever did. I don't know what this full feeling is you are talking about. Semen still comes out just no sperm.


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Postby SeekingChange » Sun Mar 26, 2017 4:32 pm

^^^^ that was our experience as well.
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Re: Birth Control

Postby Epaminondas » Sun Mar 26, 2017 4:33 pm

Vasectomy. There is no full feeling any different than before having it done. Nothing changes except the lack of sperm.


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Re: Birth Control

Postby George B. » Sun Mar 26, 2017 8:31 pm

we definitely count as quiverfull, with six kids after seven pregnancies.

And I agree with the others--we used condoms and FAM for years, but that was a real pain, especially finding condoms that really worked well for me.

The vasectomy was the best decision ever, and I haven't noticed any difference in all in regards to desire level, feeling, etc. I'm happy to provide details on my personal experiences of the procedure. All in all, I highly recommend it for when you're both ready.
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Re: Birth Control

Postby Paul B » Wed Mar 29, 2017 2:17 pm

You can find a lot of stuff about the horrors of vasectomy on the Internet. Most of it is exaggerated and the rest is the very small percentage who have a problem making it seem everyone has problems. Did it a couple of decades ago and my only regret is not doing it sooner.

FAM was out choice before that. We mostly used spermicidal foam, occasionally condoms, during fertile times. Some folks just avoid intercourse during that time, but it's when she is most into it so that's a bummer.

If you learn her cycle and signals well FAM is very effective. UNLESS she is perimenopausal.
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Postby TxGuy » Wed Apr 12, 2017 8:31 pm

Just our experience. I hate birth control pills and their long term effects with a passion. We stopped birth control years ago. I'm 48, she is 43. We have tried condoms and didn't like them. We use the ancient method of pulling out. We are really really careful and it has worked for years. Just depends on your comfort level I suppose.


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Postby Job29Man » Thu Apr 13, 2017 6:32 pm

Diaphragm for her. It's much less common today, but works well.
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Re: Birth Control

Postby GuyNamedSteve » Sat Apr 15, 2017 2:27 pm

I guess this is going to sound kind of dumb, but where does the sperm end up going if it can't evacuate? I realize the majority of an ejaculation isn't sperm, but I'm worried about a constant "blue balls" if things can't get out of there.

This is also going to sound dumb and potentially label me as "one of those weird guys", but why not leave well enough alone inside and just relocate the urethra opening to behind the testicles? I'm not aware of anyone doing that as a standard procedure, but it seems like it would accomplish the same goal (semen exits outside the vagina in this case) without really any kind of major body modification.

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Re: Birth Control

Postby George B. » Sat Apr 15, 2017 3:48 pm

GuyNamedSteve wrote:where does the sperm end up going if it can't evacuate?

After a vasectomy, the testes still make sperm, but because the exit is blocked, the sperm die and eventually are reabsorbed by the body. There's no blue balls because the sperm is such a small percentage of the seminal fluid.

GuyNamedSteve wrote:why not leave well enough alone inside and just relocate the urethra opening to behind the testicles?

I don't think you'd want that. It would change how you pee, for starters. Not to mention possible other complications.
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Re: Birth Control

Postby GuyNamedSteve » Sat Apr 15, 2017 6:59 pm

Just thinking out loud. The thought of a piercing sits better with me than chopping tubes.


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Postby George B. » Sat Apr 15, 2017 10:31 pm

To each his own, I guess. I think the opposite.
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Re: Birth Control

Postby GuyNamedSteve » Sun Apr 16, 2017 8:33 am

Not saying it's the road I want to go down. I just don't like surgery of any type - let alone elective.


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Postby George B. » Sun Apr 16, 2017 11:09 am

Sure--although I find it hard to see the difference between surgery and relocating your urethral opening.
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Postby Paul B » Sun Apr 16, 2017 1:06 pm

A vasectomy today is a minor procedure done through a very small hole closed with one or two stitches. Relocating the urethra would be far more significant procedure with a much longer healing time and far more potential complications. Not to mention urinating standing would be messy, and doing it seated would bathe your scrotum.
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Postby ledgemoor » Sun Apr 16, 2017 3:03 pm

No stitches for a vasectomy. Just one hole and a band aid.
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Postby Paul B » Sun Apr 16, 2017 3:22 pm

ledgemoor wrote:No stitches for a vasectomy. Just one hole and a band aid.

Even better than mine. But that was a while back.
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Postby George B. » Sun Apr 16, 2017 5:51 pm

Mine was fairly recent but it still involved stitches.
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Postby ledgemoor » Sun Apr 16, 2017 7:06 pm

Mine was about 15 years ago. They used some technique developed in China. Just one hole between the testicles. They did it on that ridge of skin separating them, so there is no visible scar. They used a sharp punch instead of a scalpel.

Did you guys get two holes?
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Postby George B. » Sun Apr 16, 2017 7:34 pm

Yep--one on each side and higher up. There's a visible scar (barely) on each side.
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