What to pack wedding night/honeymoon

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What to pack wedding night/honeymoon

Postby Em604 » Fri Apr 21, 2017 1:20 am

So, I'm getting married soon and have found this forum quite useful in preparing us for the start of our married lives/sex lives :wink: As we will both be newbies to this we are unsure about what exactly we should take with us to our wedding night accommodation and also on our honeymoon.
It would be great if we could compile advice from here to create a checklist of things to bring.

Also, I've noticed lots of people talking about coconut oil on here, is it a good option? Sounds a bit random that the thing you cook with you'll be using "down there", but then again, it does beat chemicals!

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Re: What to pack wedding night/honeymoon

Postby SeekingChange » Fri Apr 21, 2017 6:19 am

Coconut oil is definitely my personal preference for lube, if needed, because of the way it absorbs and makes me feel afterwards.

As to things to pack, a confident attitude, a willing heart and laughter. Know that not all will be perfect. You two will have learning to do, but if you can be truly naked (heart, soul and mind), and be willing to have fun and laugh no matter what, you two will grow in intimacy and unity.

Throw in some lingerie, but really, IMO, the honeymoon is a great time to just focus on each other without much extra.

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Re: What to pack wedding night/honeymoon

Postby newwifenewlife » Tue Apr 25, 2017 2:32 am

Why not a book or two on sex? There are some great Christian books on sex that deal with basic info and practical matters. Books by Penners, Rosenau, Leman, Rosberg, Dillon & Pintus are great authors.

Also, have you talked about the first night & honeymoon? Sexpectations for the first night & then the honeymoon? Do you have goals and a purpose for it? Are they realistic? Are you both on the same page? Turn on/turn offs? Positions to try? What kind of sex? OS? Manual sex? How much sex on the honeymoon? How much sleep? How active will you be? Need time alone? What do you look forward to? What scares you?

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Re: What to pack wedding night/honeymoon

Postby Paul B » Tue Apr 25, 2017 10:24 am

Soft lighting is a good idea. Grab some LED candles.
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Re: What to pack wedding night/honeymoon

Postby Job29Man » Tue Apr 25, 2017 10:37 am

Just as important nowadays is what NOT to pack! Leave the computer, etc locked away for the first several days. Set your phones to "Airplane" mode; you can still take photos, tell the time, etc but not be bothered by people, and not be tempted to go online.
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Re: What to pack wedding night/honeymoon

Postby Romantic Husband » Tue Apr 25, 2017 8:29 pm

I'd pack a goodie bag with snacks, Tylenol, and cranberry juice. Maybe some music if you think you'd like it for the mood and/or to cover up any sounds you two may be making. Perhaps a journal to write down some of the memories you make starting your life together.
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Re: What to pack wedding night/honeymoon

Postby Leah » Tue Apr 25, 2017 8:38 pm

I would suggest not packing a lot of lingerie. Do some shopping together and pick up some pretty things as part of your trip.
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Re: What to pack wedding night/honeymoon

Postby ledgemoor » Wed Apr 26, 2017 6:46 am

We prefer Astroglide for lube. It is water-based, feels more like the real stuff, and easy to clean up. Coconut oil is good for massages and popcorn tho. Why not take both?

She needs a gynecological exam to make sure the hymen etc. won't be an issue, especially if she is a virgin. Have you selected a method of birth control? Condoms are too prone to pilot error for newbies, plus they detract from intimacy. There are barrier methods that will not affect her libido like hormonal birth control may. Check out the Today sponge, Caya Diaphragm, and FemCap.

Read the books on sex BEFORE the honeymoon, but taking them along is a good idea.

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Re: What to pack wedding night/honeymoon

Postby MrKDC » Fri Apr 28, 2017 8:17 am

I agree with Job29man. Don't allow your phones to be a distraction. The honeymoon is a unique time for you two to focus on each other completely.
Take some lotion for massages. Massages are a great way to help each othr relax, while having a physical connection. :D
I like Paul B's idea of LED candles. We took regular candles to have some ambient lighting and the next morning we woke up to wax all over the cabinet the candles were on! We both fell asleep without blowing out the candles.

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Re: What to pack wedding night/honeymoon

Postby jude700 » Sun Apr 30, 2017 7:34 am

CooConut oil/butter is a definite lubricant choice, liquefying at warm temps but being a solid below 67f. Made a few butter sticks after a cardiologist informed DW and a class that cco was bad for heart, just had an artificial heart valve, and my butter had mold with it covering strawberries :LOL: :ANGER: The same doctor was unable to climb stairs up after my surgery and took elevator down walking full length of hall to elevator :LOL: (2014) Will be 80 in October!

DW told me to leave Laptop home on honeymoon three years late. Then asked why? We got a new Laptop the second night mainly for map/travel. At the time it showed the new roads (2000).

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Re: What to pack wedding night/honeymoon

Postby alaska bob » Sun Apr 30, 2017 2:17 pm

pack sunscreen. Seriously, I think a lot of people envision themselves spending the entire honeymoon in bed. As it turns out, there is usually a lot of time to do things that don't involve sex. If you are going someplace tropical, you want to make sure to double up on sunscreen. You don't want to take a chance at laying down together being uncomfortable.


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