I'll gladly tell of my wedding night from my perspective. It was such an (incredible!) blur that writing it down will help me remember it better too.
DW and I were both virigns, but we knew how important sex would be in marriage and had done plenty of preparatory reading and talked a lot about our expectations. This really stood us in good stead - I can't imagine having to try and undo 'sex is dirty and wrong' teaching that some members on this board received in their youth!
We left our reception quite early, just after 9pm, and my best man drove us the 25 mins to our hotel. My wife became fairly quiet on the ride, a combination of resting after all the celebrations, and nervousness about what was to come! When we got into the room, we set the mood with candles and music. DW sometimes still asks me to put the same playlist on when we make love now
. Setting the mood for our first time was really important. Then we prayed (quite briefly - well, we had waited a long time for each other!). We had decided to take things slowly, and there was no ripping off clothes but instead we spent time kissing, our hands playing over parts that previously we wouldn't have shared. As we slowly removed each other's clothes, we became more and more aware of the special intimacy of the marriage bed. There were some unexpected moments; I was surprised at the feel of her breasts - more firm and weighty than I anticipated, and when I took off my underwear she blurted out "It's huge!", which is a slight exaggeration but I'll take it anyway
After around 35-40 mintues of kissing, caressing and just beholding each other, we got out the coconut oil (thank you, TMB!) and I tried stimulating her manually. This met with only moderate success. I really was awakening my wife into completely new experiences. When we were engaged and spent time kissing, it was just about the first time she'd felt sexually excited. She had not experimented with masturbation and everything she was feeling was new and, looking back, we know her body was 'learning' how to orgasm. It almost happened that night, but it was too overwhelming for her and she didn't quite get the release of orgasm. Then came the moment for our first intercourse. All my fears about coming too soon turned out to be unfounded, and DW had only slight discomfort. She was still nervous, which made her tight, so we were gentle with each other and I came after about 5-8 minutes. There was no 'taking', I would never seriously say I took my wife's virginity. It was mutual giving, a surrender of each to the other, and it was beautiful. And quite sweaty and messy
After that we cleaned up, took a bath together, and went to bed to sleep naked. I hardly slept and was awake when dawn light started coming in - it had all been so overwhelming that we were both high and couldn't switch our brains off!
Our honeymoon sex was very good, but DW either didn't orgasm or had only a couple of small ones. It was a few weeks later, as we got more experienced, that things became much easier. You know (or maybe you don't, if you're reading the Engaged forum!), those encounters where you both finish as the same time, breathless, high as a kite and basically on another planet. When we started having those amazing lovemaking sessions on a regular basis, we just looked at each other, grinned, and said "I can't believe we got so good at sex so quickly!" In the 8 months we've been married, it has just been getting better and better. From what long time married folks on here say, I have PLENTY more improvement to look forward to