Honeymoon Hotel Etiquette

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Honeymoon Hotel Etiquette

Postby LifeAbundantly » Wed Oct 01, 2014 10:23 am

It's a nice room at a normal hotel--but it will witness the consummation of a virgin marriage. What do we need to know? Is there any unspoken etiquette about this process? Do we need to bring our own towels--put something down on the bed--pay them for any ruined sheets?

How did everyone else manage this citation?

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Re: Honeymoon Hotel Etiquette

Postby mamame » Wed Oct 01, 2014 10:38 am

Unless the hotel just opened that day I bet people have already had sex there. :) You don't have to worry.

If you want to bring a towel you can - but it's not necessary. (there may or may not be any bleeding)

If you got a bloody nose or a cut on your hand and you grabbed one of their towels it would be OK right? Same thing. Sheets get bloody for lots of reasons too. Bloody noses at night, surprise periods etc.

I would probably strip the bed and leave the sheets in the bathroom.

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Re: Honeymoon Hotel Etiquette

Postby gorf321 » Wed Oct 01, 2014 10:47 am

And be sure to tip the maid well! :wink:

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Re: Honeymoon Hotel Etiquette

Postby poetess » Wed Oct 01, 2014 10:49 am

Personally I put a bunch of washcloths in my luggage anytime we travel, for easy clean-up, and I had a towel of my own under me on our wedding night. But if we get something on the hotel's sheets or towels, I don't worry about it.
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Re: Honeymoon Hotel Etiquette

Postby John143 » Wed Oct 01, 2014 11:54 am

I wouldn't worry about it. Sex is not as messy as you're imagining.

If you're paranoid about a possible mess put a towel under you. You probably won't need more than that.
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Re: Honeymoon Hotel Etiquette

Postby Balkie » Fri Oct 03, 2014 12:33 pm

We were on a cruise ship and had sex three or four times a day, every time we left the room the porter changed and made the bed. He would just smile at us in the hall and say "honey honey honeymooners." He got a large tip for all his efforts.

I think most hotel owners expect and are happy their guests have a happy sexual experience at their establishment. We did start to lay on a towel so we did not stain the bed sheets, but it isn't a huge mess either way.

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Re: Honeymoon Hotel Etiquette

Postby mrsl » Fri Oct 03, 2014 3:12 pm

Bring baby wipes! They are great for cleaning yourselves, and can be used to spot clean sheets if you are worried about it. DH and I were very glad for them on our honeymoon.

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Re: Honeymoon Hotel Etiquette

Postby Balkie » Sat Oct 04, 2014 7:38 am

Bingo! that is a helpful tip!

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Re: Honeymoon Hotel Etiquette

Postby InGodsGrace » Sat Oct 04, 2014 8:18 am

And if baby wipes weird you out like me. Cottonelle has some good wipes, and doesn't have a baby scent.

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Re: Honeymoon Hotel Etiquette

Postby John143 » Sat Oct 04, 2014 8:24 am

Baby wipes can remove anything. Trust me.
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Re: Honeymoon Hotel Etiquette

Postby chachacha » Sat Oct 04, 2014 8:39 am

I second (or third) the baby wipes. They are amazing for staying fresh because you never know when you might decide to have a little "fun." Enjoy your honeymoon!

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Re: Honeymoon Hotel Etiquette

Postby TheTigress » Sun Oct 05, 2014 7:47 pm

Another tid bit on wipes! If you are sensitive at all you can get unscented wipes. I had to find some with no alcohol which is almost impossible with feminine wipes but abundant with baby wipes. If you are prone to infections it might be a good idea to go ahead and find some alchohol free unscented wipes :)
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Re: Honeymoon Hotel Etiquette

Postby LifeAbundantly » Mon Oct 06, 2014 7:03 am

Thank you everyone! I'm glad nobody ran into any big problems--I have gone ahead and purchased a not-too-obviously-baby pack of wipes! :-)

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Re: Honeymoon Hotel Etiquette

Postby alegria_joy » Mon Oct 06, 2014 9:01 am

Not to scare you unnecessarily, but I found I can't use baby wipes (even unscented ones) or other intimate wipes on my lady bits - without causing a level of dryness/tenderness that makes sex uncomfortable. I had used them while celibate with no problems; they don't HURT me, but they do make it where my natural lubrication is drastically decreased for several hours, even if I'm aroused. I ended up with a painful/itchy couple of weeks a month into our marriage before I realized that my problem was not that I wasn't clean enough, but that I couldn't keep using even the mildest detergents around my vaginal opening without causing problems when I'm sexually active. :wink:

The good news is that it wasn't a lasting condition and got noticeably better within two days of stopping the use of all wipes/washes down there.

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Re: Honeymoon Hotel Etiquette

Postby seeking perspective » Mon Oct 06, 2014 9:10 am

You can also take some washcloths for clean-up with just water. If you buy baby washcloths, you'll find that they're supersoft.
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Re: Honeymoon Hotel Etiquette

Postby Leah » Mon Oct 06, 2014 9:23 am

I work in the hospitality industry. They do not examine the sheets and towels before the launder them or send them out to be laundered. Nothing will happen on your honeymoon that has never happened before.

One of the trends in hospitality housekeeping is to give guests the opportunity to reuse sheets and towels for the duration of the stay. If the hotel you plan to use does this, you will probably be asked to hang towels in the bathroom and leave the card out where housekeeping will look for it.

Please don't worry. Hotel employees are professionals. The front desk might congratulate you at check it, but otherwise, their job is to leave you alone unless you need something.

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Re: Honeymoon Hotel Etiquette

Postby arwen » Thu Nov 13, 2014 8:00 am

I thought this might be a good place to leave a funny, quasi-hotel etiquette story from our wedding night, so that others may learn from our folly :wink:

When ordering room service after just having consummated your marriage, do NOT let the hotel employee actually enter the room carrying your food, where your naked wife is laying on the bed!!!!!! That poor woman got a great look at my chest (and her facial expression was of pure horror), I almost had a heart attack, husband was very contrite. He didn't expect her to actually come right in with the pizza, and I sure wasn't expecting it either -- resulting in accidental flashing, and one extremely embarrassed new wife.

It was horrific at the time, but we didn't let it put a damper on our evening.. and the pizza was still delicious. We definitely laugh about it now :mrgreen:
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Re: Honeymoon Hotel Etiquette

Postby ScottMann » Thu Nov 13, 2014 8:22 am

I'll take delivery!

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