Bear wrote:Another thought: would your FW consider joining us here on TMB?
I don't know if she would get on here. Maybe in time.
Sex and intimacy from a Christian perspective. NOTE: Many topics can only be read by members.
NotYourAverageGuy wrote:She said once a month of less would work for her. I am fine with doing it when she needs it. I will enjoy serving her which is reason enough. I just won't get anything out of it sexually but that is ok.
SeekingChange wrote:Another perspective to think about... if you guys decide to get married under this arrangement, and by some miracle, you experience an awakening and all of a sudden you have a sex drive, you enjoy sex, and you want sex, but your now wife says, "Nope, that wasn't the agreement, sorry.", would you want to be in a marriage until "death do us part", unable to explore your new found freedom and desires? This is a covenant you are entering into, it's not something to take lightly.
That would not be our arrangement. It would be that I am always available for her but she would not expect me to "perform" or totally give up solo sex (as needed).
SeekingChange wrote:Have you sought God to the true reason for your emotionlessness and healing from that?
Thank God though you do not have issues like mine. Imagine a lifetime of guilt over having to masturbate. If I had the "gift of singleness" then I would have the self-control to not need that. In reality I don't have that gift yet I am too broken to really have a proper marriage so being married and have sex with a wife is not really an option either not to mention my aversion to sex. So I live with guilt always asking forgiveness. I pray that I could either have that gift or be healed enough for marriage. It just is not yet happening.
NotYourAverageGuy wrote: not to mention my aversion to sex. So I live with guilt always asking forgiveness. I pray that I could either have that gift or be healed enough for marriage. It just is not yet happening.
ledgemoor wrote: Do you enjoy anything?
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