Delight Your Marriage podcast #106

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Delight Your Marriage podcast #106

Postby padsnd » Thu Jul 21, 2016 5:42 am

Bella's guest on Delight Your Marriage podcast said something I don't believe anyone has ever articulated (at least as clearly) before. To paraphrase this, they were discussing the old bit about how many believe that sex is just physical for men. That is when the guest pointed out that she realized that she was the one for whom it was primarily a physical thing when she noticed that the only time they had sex was once or twice a month when her libido peaked. While she was thinking her husband only saw it as a physical thing, she was oblivious to the fact that she "rejected" sex anytime except the times when her physical body was "screaming" for it.

It was an interesting twist on things--and another example of how often when we scream the loudest about someone else possibly doing something a certain way, we are oblivious to the fact that we are doing the same thing all the more.
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Re: DYM #106

Postby SeekingChange » Thu Jul 21, 2016 6:07 am

I have often heard, the sin we notice or that bothers us in others, is a sin in us that we need to deal with.
God can change what people do, behavioral patterns that have been in play for decades. He can change what we do to cope, find comfort, survive conflict, to count. Rahab had done a same old thing for years...then she did something new.

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Re: DYM #106

Postby padsnd » Thu Jul 21, 2016 7:25 am

SeekingChange wrote:I have often heard, the sin we notice or that bothers us in others, is a sin in us that we need to deal with.

Agreed. I'm not sure it is accurate to say that sex in marriage with a physical motivation is sinful; in fact, I think it is well within God's design. But, the principle is valid. In this case, I would call it a perceived fault (perceived because it really isn't necessary a true fault).


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