Unfulfilled, interacting with a couple of points:
Potetsss, you stated about how you love and feel attracted to your husband and desire him when you take walks, or do things or talk together etc. that sexual "thing" is not a secondary at least sometimes issue.
When I said I "desire" him, I wasn't necessarily talking about sex. Don't get me wrong, I love having sex with him, and I initiate more often than he does, etc. But I'm talking about desiring him
--his heart, his attention, his touch, his presence. That may or may not have a sexual component to it at the time. To me (and I think to most women) "desire" and "intimacy" are not necessarily synonyms for sex. Sex is a subset of these, not their entirety.
The problem I see in that whole description was that it was all about how YOU felt desire for your husband and that is critically important for sure. But I think what myself and Job and a few other guys are trying to say is that is all INVISIBLE to the husband. He is still left feeling and wondering if he is wanted and desired. It remains a mystery to be solved. Some men solve it, while I fear most men do not and are left wandering and wondering if their wife really wants or desires them.
I'm pretty sure my husband is not left wondering. Many times a day I kiss him, grope him, smile at him, hug him, meet small needs like refilling his water glass, tell him specific reasons I'm glad I married him, etc. Theoretically this may be true of some women, but in this case, no, I doubt it.