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HeIsMine
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Date of your marriage (past or future): May 20th, 2017
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HeIsMine intro

Postby HeIsMine » Tue May 16, 2017 12:13 am

Hello! I have to say God has given me such hope, healing and guidance from reading these boards over the past year. I am so grateful!

I found TMB while looking for answers from a Christian perspective about how important chemistry is (and what are warning signs of low-drive) during the getting-to-know-someone phase of a relationship. What I found here was so helpful! I was able to trust the Lord about the good, godly qualities I saw and was attracted to in the man I was getting to know. In the end those chemistry/low-drive concerns were unfounded. They had more to do with our communication and his respect for me than anything else.

So in a few days my Love and I will be married! I have come back to read and seek answers many times about various things that have come up - issues big and small. Each time the forums have been a treasure trove of wisdom for me.

I'm in my mid-30's and have been perimenopausal for about 7 years. Unsure if it's possible, but hoping to be able to become pregnant together and have a baby. Also adoption is in the hopes and plans.

I am a virgin bride yet with a history of sexual abuse as a child as well as an adult multiple times. Because of becoming sexualized as a preschooler by the abuse, I had a sexual addiction with masturbation since I was a child. I have experienced so much freedom in this battle over the last 7 years, but especially during our engagement. Porn was not involved in that struggle until later, and had been a more limited struggle.

Despite my history as well as growing up in a fundamentalist religious family where abuse (non-sexual) and control was rampant, God re-created in me a very biblical sex-positive perspective.

Just weeks before our wedding, my fiance's sexual past has come to light, where there had been no inkling of it before. He has been very repentant over his reticence to share his history with me, but it has really rocked my foundation, and I'm having to make sure that foundation is completely centered on Christ. Where I had felt complete freedom and confidence, I've now discovered fears and lack of confidence. God is building back that trust and our hope is in His power to redeem.

So, with all these things I've mentioned, I know I will be returning here often to seek wisdom and unravel these different balls of knots as they come up in marriage. And I'm so looking forward to it!

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Dale
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Re: HeIsMine intro

Postby Dale » Tue May 16, 2017 4:03 am

Welcome! It's great to hear how this ministry has helped you already! God is in the healing business, and wants to bless your union with ama Song intimacy and freedom! :D

Keep reading and posting. As you have already found, there is much wisdom here. :D

Dale

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SeekingChange
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Date of your marriage (past or future): August 17th, 1994
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Re: HeIsMine intro

Postby SeekingChange » Tue May 16, 2017 6:14 am

Welcome! I enjoyed reading what you shared. I hope you stick around and we hear from you more.
God can change what people do, behavioral patterns that have been in play for decades. He can change what we do to cope, find comfort, survive conflict, to count. Rahab had done a same old thing for years...then she did something new.

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Leah
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Re: HeIsMine intro

Postby Leah » Tue May 16, 2017 7:11 am

Welcome to the boards. We are a hoot.
Leah

“I have learned now that while those who speak about one's miseries usually hurt, those who keep silence hurt more.”--C.S. Lewis


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HeIsMine
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Joined: Mon May 15, 2017 10:27 pm
Date of your marriage (past or future): May 20th, 2017
Gender: Female

Re: HeIsMine intro

Postby HeIsMine » Tue May 16, 2017 7:52 am

Thank you for the welcoming words! I appreciate the affirmation that God is the healer and look forward to that blessing and freedom I know will come through Him! I have already posted questions about a couple of topics in the last several hours, so I guess I'm off to a good start. I'm really looking forward to engaging more in this ministry and community. Thanks friends!


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