The secret to desire (TED: Ester Perel)

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The secret to desire (TED: Ester Perel)

Postby lysander » Sun Oct 22, 2017 3:41 am

This video of a TED talk really gets it right. IT explains so clearly why in long term relationships sexual desire goes down and what can be done about it.

I hope it helps.

https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_ ... lationship

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Re: The secret to desire (TED: Ester Perel)

Postby SeekingChange » Sun Oct 22, 2017 6:50 am

Wow! I thought that was excellent. I just need to watch it multiple more times to really process it all. Thanks for sharing!
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Re: The secret to desire (TED: Ester Perel)

Postby SeekingChange » Mon Oct 23, 2017 8:11 am

I just wanted to come back and say, I watched this again, taking notes this time in effort to try to digest it more. And I believe this lady is really onto something. It might help people understand themselves, which is what it's doing for me. Once I get myself understood :wink: maybe I can help my husband and others find some understanding as well. I recommend for others to watch it, not just those who "lack desire".
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Re: The secret to desire (TED: Ester Perel)

Postby seeking perspective » Mon Oct 23, 2017 10:49 am

Thanks so much for sharing this. It's given me a lot to think about.
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