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Hearing sex from neighbors

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Hearing sex from neighbors

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I don't know where else to put this. But I've been married now to my SO for almost 8 months. I've been porn free for over 2 years, but there's some old stuff now popping back up. One of those things is being turned on by the sound of sex. We live in an apartment so you're bound to hear it sooner or later. Problem is that I actually haven't and anytime I hear my neighbors talking or any noise for that issue I become paralyzed to figure out what the sound might be, probably hoping I hear something. This is an old habit from even when I was young and heard my own parents having sex and even later on in my life. I really don't know what to do, since it feels so engrained when I hear something. I want to stop trying to hear, but I feel like my ears are so tuned to pick up those sounds I just can't help it.

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So what you're saying, Marge, is that all sin is okay, since that's how God built us?

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LiL - I really appreciate how you speak your heart/mind and call people out even when it may be awkward. :-)

-Scott

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Yeah they messaged me as well and I think they had ulterior motives
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lovebear - Can you please post that as a response (instead of comment) on this thread so everyone can see?

Also, entirely up to you, but if you ever receive a PM that feels awkward/uncomfortable/sinful to you, then I suggest you PM Dale (the board czar) to report the activity. I made the mistake of not reporting one person shortly after I became active on here (the mind is very good at coming up with justification for odd behavior), waiting weeks to do so, and I regret that it may have allowed that person to prey on others.

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Looks like her comment is gone now, but there are multiple inappropriate comments on other threads. Scott, I appreciate you drawing my attention to the misuse of comments on a previous thread.
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She's taken to posting in comments section to avoid the down votes she gets all of the time.
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Has Dale been notified?
God can change what people do, behavioral patterns that have been in play for decades. He can change what we do to cope, to find comfort, to survive conflict, to count. Rahab had done a same old thing for years... and then she did something new.
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Post by Elevation »

Thanks for sharing.  How about using white noise to mask the sound?  You can type in your favorite search engine "White Noise Generator" or download an app for your phone to overcome the temptation. :)

The main issue is a heart issue though...Ask the Lord to santify your desires that You will desire Him and your wife more than outside stimulis. 

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Re: Hearing sex from neighbors

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I agree with the heart issue completely. But there's still some sort of brain function that just leaves me incapable of not trying to hear it. It's almost trance like.

The app idea is good though.
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