I don't know where else to put this. But I've been married now to my SO for almost 8 months. I've been porn free for over 2 years, but there's some old stuff now popping back up. One of those things is being turned on by the sound of sex. We live in an apartment so you're bound to hear it sooner or later. Problem is that I actually haven't and anytime I hear my neighbors talking or any noise for that issue I become paralyzed to figure out what the sound might be, probably hoping I hear something. This is an old habit from even when I was young and heard my own parents having sex and even later on in my life. I really don't know what to do, since it feels so engrained when I hear something. I want to stop trying to hear, but I feel like my ears are so tuned to pick up those sounds I just can't help it.
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Thanks for sharing. How about using white noise to mask the sound? You can type in your favorite search engine "White Noise Generator" or download an app for your phone to overcome the temptation. :)
The main issue is a heart issue though...Ask the Lord to santify your desires that You will desire Him and your wife more than outside stimulis.