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Is Porn An Addiction?

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Re: Is Porn An Addiction?

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olafthewise wrote: Mon Feb 08, 2021 10:14 pm Gateway to porn;
anything that is explicit in nature.

I'm not advocating a strict dress code, just awareness that explicit views are all around us and in many cases those thoughts cause young men to look further on the internet.
Thank you for your detailed answer. In truth I'm a bit overwhelmed in how to help my boys in light of all you've written. Thankfully I'm not alone & God is always willing to help.
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Beccaloo wrote: Tue Feb 09, 2021 12:42 am Thank you for your detailed answer. In truth I'm a bit overwhelmed in how to help my boys in light of all you've written. Thankfully I'm not alone & God is always willing to help.
I don't know if this is helping your sons directly, but learning how males generally are, and teaching your daughters and their wives, is a way to "help". I read several years back several books around men. Recently I gave my dil a book that has really opened her eyes and has helped her with understanding and working with my son, it is "Through a Man's Eyes" by Shaunti Feldhahn and Craig Gross.
God can change what people do, behavioral patterns that have been in play for decades. He can change what we do to cope, to find comfort, to survive conflict, to count. Rahab had done a same old thing for years... and then she did something new.
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Re: Is Porn An Addiction?

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@SC - Thank you. I will be looking at that book very soon.
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Beccaloo wrote:
olafthewise wrote: Sun Feb 07, 2021 11:47 pm By the way, just like gateway drugs such as marijuana, porn has gateway material too. Be aware.
Since I have boys, who think differently than I do, would you mind listing some of the gateway material so I can be aware of those?
Nowadays - Any “device” that has internet connection. Even if you monitor and out blocker software, it’s not perfect. A major gateway I see as a problem now is Manga cartoons and the like. I once followed the breadcrumb trail behind my son’s Yugio (sp?) game play and it led into a cartoon porn game a few steps down the line. He was 12, he’d been there and we had a long, loving talk afterwards.
But anything that titillates and shows some skin can trigger the urge to seek more. That’s just how many if not most teen boys, and now more and more girls, are wired. The porn pimps have easy targets and are good at what they do. I think the better method is not to try too hard, and certainly do not depend on keeping it away from them or the it. Be proactive instead by making them aware of the dangers and be free with the truth about sexuality earlier rather than later. I truly believe knowledge is power in this fight.
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Re: Is Porn An Addiction?

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LBD wrote: Tue Feb 09, 2021 12:23 pm I think the better method is not to try too hard, and certainly do not depend on keeping it away from them or the it. Be proactive instead by making them aware of the dangers and be free with the truth about sexuality earlier rather than later. I truly believe knowledge is power in this fight.

This has become my way of thinking as well.
I use the phrase "this is/may be embarrassing" to keep communication open with my kids.
I've also told them to use that if they need to talk in private & don't know how to say what they need to.
I never realized some of the things that were going through their heads having to deal with. Issues that are different from when I grew up.
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