Thank you for your detailed answer. In truth I'm a bit overwhelmed in how to help my boys in light of all you've written. Thankfully I'm not alone & God is always willing to help.
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I don't know if this is helping your sons directly, but learning how males generally are, and teaching your daughters and their wives, is a way to "help". I read several years back several books around men. Recently I gave my dil a book that has really opened her eyes and has helped her with understanding and working with my son, it is "Through a Man's Eyes" by Shaunti Feldhahn and Craig Gross.
Nowadays - Any “device” that has internet connection. Even if you monitor and out blocker software, it’s not perfect. A major gateway I see as a problem now is Manga cartoons and the like. I once followed the breadcrumb trail behind my son’s Yugio (sp?) game play and it led into a cartoon porn game a few steps down the line. He was 12, he’d been there and we had a long, loving talk afterwards.
But anything that titillates and shows some skin can trigger the urge to seek more. That’s just how many if not most teen boys, and now more and more girls, are wired. The porn pimps have easy targets and are good at what they do. I think the better method is not to try too hard, and certainly do not depend on keeping it away from them or the it. Be proactive instead by making them aware of the dangers and be free with the truth about sexuality earlier rather than later. I truly believe knowledge is power in this fight.
LBD wrote: ↑Tue Feb 09, 2021 12:23 pm I think the better method is not to try too hard, and certainly do not depend on keeping it away from them or the it. Be proactive instead by making them aware of the dangers and be free with the truth about sexuality earlier rather than later. I truly believe knowledge is power in this fight.
This has become my way of thinking as well.
I use the phrase "this is/may be embarrassing" to keep communication open with my kids.
I've also told them to use that if they need to talk in private & don't know how to say what they need to.
I never realized some of the things that were going through their heads having to deal with. Issues that are different from when I grew up.