Is being sore normal?

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Is being sore normal?

Postby reillyj » Sat Nov 11, 2017 1:41 pm

Can't believe i'm asking this after years of marriage (well, for a LONG TIME we were considered in a sexless marriage-less than 10 x per yr) and part of the reason may be because i'm perimenopause, and now we are recently having more sex than ever, but...

Ladies, is it normal to be sore after sex? I'm talking about probably the first inch or so of the vagina and the opening? H tries to be gentle and he's not rough when he manually stimulates me but we do a lot of that simply because i love it the best. Our LM'ng does not last long! Probably 20 minutes at the very most and he doesn't have to thrust for long periods of time during PIV.

We do use lube but i'm thinking we need to use it even at the very beginning before any penetration? I am on HRT which has helped and i don't know if there really is any vaginal atrophy (i did start using Carlsons E suppositories which are great) but i do feel somewhat of a soreness/burning for awhile..not overwhelming but just wondering...

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Re: Is being sore normal?

Postby OldMarriedLady » Sat Nov 11, 2017 2:10 pm

We use coconut oil lubricant during manual foreplay, on both of us, so that may help you avoid soreness afterwards.
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Re: Is being sore normal?

Postby Leah » Sat Nov 11, 2017 8:36 pm

If it has not been normal before, its not normal now. Call a physical therapist.

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Re: Is being sore normal?

Postby C_Brown » Tue Nov 14, 2017 3:45 pm

See an OBGYN, there could be a medical cause.
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