Job29Man wrote:So, are there other Christians here who were promiscuous before marriage and had hot sex then got married and had enduring sexual pleasure without years of disconnect?
We don't totally meet your qualifications, but we do fall on that side of the equation. Gauselin and I met in college, were both born-again Christians raised in the church and in non-broken homes. At that time we were both less attentive to our faith than we should have been. Out from under our parents direct supervision, we were learning about aspects of the world we had not yet experienced.
For my part, having been much less than popular in High School, I found myself in a very different world where people LIKED being around me and I had no lack of girls willing to go out with me. I didn't immediately fall into a promiscuous lifestyle, but over two years I slowly drifted farther and farther from God and had several companions. By the time Gauselin and I met, I was no longer a virgin and quite cavalier in my attitude about sex. I thought sexual activity was part of being in an exclusive relationship. I never became a "any girl will do" type of jerk, though I was a jerk nonetheless.
Gauselin came to college with real questions about her family faith. Like me she found a new lease on life in college, making friends faster than before and able to establish relationships without the necessity of "parental approval." We were friends for a year, working on the school newspaper, and she was aware of my attitude. We started seriously dating and then after a few months had sex for the first time. It did NOT include sky rockets. In fact, having been raised to hold "virginity" as a very high standard, it really shook her self esteem that she had "let" me go that far. We almost broke up after that.
We were both repentant and absolved not to "go there" again, but for the next two years we struggled EVERY TIME we were together. We tried to keep ourselves public, we discussed it with our pastor, we talked about "hot spots" to avoid, but hormones raged and we continued to have sex. It felt like a skipping record (anyone here remember THAT?). After a year of dating, we became engaged. A year later, we were married. Yes, it was out of necessity (she was pregnant), but we knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together.
Now, almost 27 years later, we are still married and are having the best sex of our lives, without having had any major time of "drought". There have been ups and downs, but mostly credited to kids, stress and changes. We repented to each other and to God for failing to follow His plan, and who knows what "may have been." Yet He guided us to good mentors, we became involved in marriage ministry at our church for many years, and are now serving as missionaries.
Lasting repercussions? Again, I don't know. Results? We ultimately drew much closer to God than we had been as teens and have a heart for marriages that reflect God.
I do know that we strive to live each new day for Him and continue to serve each other as best we can.