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AB116
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Postby AB116 » Mon Jul 04, 2016 10:22 am

Im trying to find people i can talk to about recovering from same sex attraction or what im supposd to do about that. I was abused by a woman since before i can remember up until 7 years old. So i think it all originates from that. I had it under control until i got married and found out about my husbands porn addiction which included same sex stuff he was watching that i stumbledd upon whike looking thru his phone. We got divorced. I remarried. Same thibg happened again. Well,here we are. I also have developed a fidelity issue because he was also talking to other women. Not blaming him, just pin pointing at what point these things became a problem. In between marriages i developed a drinking problem because of some PTSD. Its hard to sleep when im alone so i drank to fall asleep. I dont drink much at all but i need to be able to lessen the craving.
I dont know what to do about any of this. I need someome to talk to about it . I DO NOT have money for a therapist. I already owe them money.

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Re: Need Help

Postby doug-h » Mon Jul 04, 2016 10:37 am

ab116

Sorry for the trials that you are going thru. I really cant offer any advice as far as the SSA, but you might benefit from a group such as Celebrate Recovery. You wouldn't need to speak of anything before you were ready. I have found it to be a very safe environment to deal with some issues that I struggle with. You might find it helpful for the alcohol problem, but I would guess over time, it would be a help in any issues that you deal with.

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Re: Need Help

Postby AB116 » Mon Jul 04, 2016 11:42 am

Thank you. I have actually been to one of the meetings before but there just wasnt enough time to talk about anything. It was very rushed. Idk. Is that how all groups normally are?

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Re: Need Help

Postby doug-h » Mon Jul 04, 2016 1:42 pm

The groups have their limitations, but the fellowship is priceless. It can take awhile to build the right trust and relationships, but as you attend more, and become more involved in the 12 steps, you will build more personal relationships. I find the group share to be invaluable in my day to day struggles, but it is in those relationships that I find the most benefit.

I would encourage you to give it another shot, and commit to at least 4 meetings before you rule it out. 8 would be even better. Miracles really do happen there, but it takes a commitment on your part.

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Re: Need Help

Postby AB116 » Mon Jul 04, 2016 1:57 pm

Ok. Will this do any good if i am in the stageof - i want to want to stop but if i was honest with myself i dont totally want to stop but i want to want to stop. I hope that make sense

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Re: Need Help

Postby doug-h » Mon Jul 04, 2016 2:12 pm

Yeah, that makes perfect sense. I think we all go thru those stages, till we don't anymore.

I honestly can't say that it will help you if you aren't commited, but it might help you reach that commitment.

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Re: Need Help

Postby AB116 » Mon Jul 04, 2016 2:19 pm

Ok. I havent told my husband at all. We are seperated now and we both have issues. I dont know if i shoudl


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