Loss of nipple sensitivity after pregnancy

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Loss of nipple sensitivity after pregnancy

Postby justsomeguy » Tue May 02, 2017 1:01 pm

I just learned something that saddened me: after the birth of our children (we had triplets - HARD pregnancy!) my wife lost nearly all of her nipple sensitivity. She does not have implants but she did breast-feed as much as possible and also pumped all the time. This was our only pregnancy to term. We wanted all our kids to get her milk but now I wonder if we damaged her nipples in the process?

Can anyone tell me if there's anything that can be done to increase/restore nipple sensitivity for a woman? She's 45 now. Right now she says her nipples feel like any other skin on the body and there is no sexual stimulation to be had from any form of touch - hand or mouth. This makes me really sad! I would LOVE for her to experience the excitement she once felt from that form of stimulation.

Thanks for any ideas.

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Re: Loss of nipple sensitivity after pregnancy

Postby tentsofpurple » Tue May 02, 2017 1:24 pm

How long since she's weaned the babies? I have changes in nipple sensation after pregnancy/nursing too. For me its the opposite they are hypersensitive, but not a good way, any touch/stimulation is unpleasant ranging from irritating to painful. For me it takes a while after weaning before they begin to settle back into how they were before, a combination I think of them getting a rest and hormones returning to a non nursing state. They don't go completely back to how they were before (I have not had more than 2 years without being pregnant or nursing in the past 9 years so I couldn't tell you if they go completely back to how they were pre-kids) but they do get significantly better about 6 months to a year after weaning.

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Re: Loss of nipple sensitivity after pregnancy

Postby justsomeguy » Tue May 02, 2017 1:56 pm

tentsofpurple wrote:How long since she's weaned the babies?


They'll be 16 this year so we are well past a year

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Re: Loss of nipple sensitivity after pregnancy

Postby SeekingChange » Tue May 02, 2017 2:44 pm

Does sucking do nothing for her, at all? Have you experimented with your timing?

I would describe myself by saying that I have very little nipple sensitivity. Light touches, licking, temp differences, etc. do nothing for me. Yet, there are times in my cycle, and it has to be the right times and the correct arousal state, where certain actions (i.e. sucking, pinching, etc) seem to shoot a current straight to the clitoral region. Doesn't do much for the breast in and of itself, but it does do something sexually.
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Re: Loss of nipple sensitivity after pregnancy

Postby justsomeguy » Tue May 02, 2017 2:55 pm

SeekingChange wrote:Does sucking do nothing for her, at all? Have you experimented with your timing?

Every time I've asked she has always said "it does nothing for me" but sometimes she says it looks hot so at least there's a bit of visual benefit for her. Regarding timing, I regularly try to stimulate her there and not once in more than a decade has she responded with a desire for more of that or indicated it did anything more than the equivalent of touching her elbow. So yes, I've tried at many different parts of her cycle and also stages of arousal.

I wonder if it might be hormonal?

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Re: Loss of nipple sensitivity after pregnancy

Postby C_Brown » Tue May 02, 2017 7:21 pm

justsomeguy wrote:
tentsofpurple wrote:How long since she's weaned the babies?


They'll be 16 this year so we are well past a year


DW and I started having kids soon after we were married, and had them pretty close together too. Nursing changed how her breasts reacted from pleasurable to a huge turn off so we just didn't go there any more for a long, long time.

I think it was at about 4 years after our last one stopped nursing that she was willing to try it again. At first she didn't have much reaction, it was mildly pleasurable or mildly distasteful, but as we kept doing it her body re-learned to enjoy it. It took a few months from the time we started for the change to happen. There are still times where they are too sensitive and I have to leave them be, but there are now also times where she will O from that alone. Usually her best reactions are around ovulation and her worst reactions are just before starting her period so I'm sure hormone levels have something to do with it. There may be some value in sucking harder or softer, using your tongue, and/or gently biting her nipple between your teeth with your lips in the way to soften it.

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Re: Loss of nipple sensitivity after pregnancy

Postby poetess » Wed May 03, 2017 3:03 pm

If they aren't sensitive in an unpleasant way, but merely neutral, that's better than the painful sensitivity many of us have. So I'd say enjoy them for yourself, let her enjoy that you enjoy them, and if that is all you ever have that is still good. (For me, it ranges from neutral-nothing-at-all to extremely painful, and I happily let my husband play with them on the rare times there is no pain when he touches them.) Perhaps someday there will be more, but what you have is still a positive.
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Re: Loss of nipple sensitivity after pregnancy

Postby justsomeguy » Wed May 03, 2017 7:49 pm

I was hoping there was something that could be done to increase enjoyment for her but I'm guessing not. Guess it's best to embrace our motto "it is what it is" and be content with that. Thanks all.

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Re: Loss of nipple sensitivity after pregnancy

Postby ledgemoor » Wed May 03, 2017 9:28 pm

There aren't many problems that can't be caused by out-of-whack hormones. I looked on the chart that DW's doctor gave her
http://procompounding.com/wp-content/up ... KEY-je.pdf
and sure enough, they can cause breast tenderness. I guess that's the opposite of the lack of sensitivity. The chart shows that too much estrogen can cause breast tenderness. So it seems that not enough estrogen could cause lack of sensitivity.

It wouldn't hurt for her to get her hormones checked by a bioidentical Hormone Replacement Therapy specialist.

Here is someone else in the same boat:
http://forums.webmd.com/3/gynecology-ex ... orum/13568
I didn't read thru it, but there might be something useful there.
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