A field day for Freud

How does past rape, molesting, or other sexual abuse effect future marriage?
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A field day for Freud

Postby Allons-y » Sat Apr 19, 2014 12:34 am

I apologize if this is in the wrong subforum; I just wanted to vent something that had been bothering me for a long time and this seemed the closest fit since I'm engaged not married.

I should mention I have no history of sexual abuse, excepting possibly one incident in which one of my five-year-old guy friends propositioned me for oral sex, though I doubt he and know I didn't understand the concept of sexuality. I've always been pretty modest and said no and he didn't press me but told my parents who then stopped taking me to his house. I don't have flashbacks or anything, the incident hasn't haunted me or anything. I think it was just a little boy being curious about body parts and crossing a line he didn't know about. Just thought I'd go with full disclosure.

Maybe 6 years ago (would have been about 20), I had a wet dream (and I can probably count on one hand how many I've had in my life) involving my parents. Thankfully no nudity that I can remember, but I remember my dad squeezing my mom's breast and it "popped" like a balloon (following my dream logic anyway, stuff didn't fly everywhere or anything, but I know that's the word to describe what happened) and I woke up at that point having ejaculated. Nothing remotely like this (dream or reality) happened before or since.

So... what does this mean? Is this normal? Should I be concerned about having an Oedipus concept?

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Re: A field day for Freud

Postby cbmike » Sat Apr 19, 2014 5:43 am

It means you had a weird dream.

Since it was six years ago, I'm guessing it's safe to say it hasn't caused irreparable damage in your life since then, and I see no reason to assume it will later either.

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Re: A field day for Freud

Postby Ballad » Sat Apr 19, 2014 8:11 am

While engaged, I had a dream in which my mother told me it was normal to have sex for the first time with one's opposite-sex parent, in order not to be too awkward with one's spouse. I don't generally have any control in my dreams, so I just took her word for it and went with that. But it was a dream. I don't think it really says anything about my relationship with her; even at the time, I didn't find it too disturbing, just weird.

Likewise, I don't believe, in truth, that one small child can sexually abuse another. Even if (as seems fairly likely) the idea came from exposure to porn, or his own abuse, there's not really that element of knowingly exploiting the vulnerability of another.
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Re: A field day for Freud

Postby CandC320 » Thu Apr 24, 2014 9:14 am

I have had my share of "weird" dreams of a sexual nature. I have always awakened thankful that they were just a dream! :lol:

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