poetess wrote:A single man doesn't get to rewrite the rules by using pornography, and an infertile couple doesn't get to rewrite the rules by going outside the marriage to conceive children.
I am not going outside marriage to conceive a child; I am using medical treatment within a marriage.
My FIL had liver cancer and required a deceased donor (he needed a full liver, not a partial transfer like with a living donor). He received a transplant a little over a year ago. Did that commoditize his life and organs too much? Should he have just died because he introduced a foreign body into his life and marriage? Did the fact that there were financial costs associated with his treatment mean that everyone was a filthy and corrupt prostitute, serving lucre and not the greater good?
People sell plasma. Should we, then, ban all plasma and platelets used in surgery? Should we ban blood transfusions? Some people even sell organs. Should we ban transplants and skin grafts?
You didn't have children because you married late. (As did I.) But you are not drawing any distinction between a single person using a donor to have a baby and a married couple using reproductive medicine to address known or unknown medical impediments.
And the overwhelming majority of the objections seem to be what-if statements. What-if someone discarded extra embryos? What if someone lost their embryos through rare and extreme circumstances? There are literally a thousand more direct and obvious and COMMON sins associated with sex and with marriage. What if someone got divorced? What if someone had an affair? What about fornication? What about rape? What about lust? What about feeling societal pressure into getting married but then you weren't really that emotionally attached and now you're just not sure you want to be married? What about same sex marriage? What if two people are married and then one decides to switch genders -- what about marriage or sex then? What about pornography? What about abuse and violence? What about bigamy?
Is the fact that sin is potentially easy with marriage or with sex reason enough to ban them both for always and ever because you can't guarantee that everyone will get it right all of the time? Because there are a million more ways that marriage (and sex) have ACTUALLY gone wrong than with ART or IVF.