Perimenopause anyone?

Menopause - how it impacts your health, your sexuality, and your life in general.
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Perimenopause anyone?

Postby mamame » Tue Sep 09, 2014 9:01 am

My body is very clearly declaring itself as beginning the transition to menopause - and I am not liking it.! Is God making my periods so horrible that I will be thankful to have them gone?
I'm sad and a little scared about what this means for my overall health. Not to mention admitting that I'm getting older.

I'm pretty anemic and an ablation is likely in my future because my body cannot replace the amount of blood I'm losing each month.

While periods are a nuisance I've always felt like they defined me as a woman. Even after my tubes were tied and it wasn't about fertility. I still took time to be thankful for this process that allowed me to conceive and carry my children.

The three women who filled my mother role have all been promoted to Heaven in the last couple of years and I feel like I'm marching into new territory without a guide.

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Re: Perimenopause anyone?

Postby seeking perspective » Tue Sep 09, 2014 9:57 am

mamame wrote:My body is very clearly declaring itself as beginning the transition to menopause - and I am not liking it.! Is God making my periods so horrible that I will be thankful to have them gone?


It's sort of like how the last six weeks of pregnancy are so uncomfortable that you look forward to the pain of labor and delivery just so you'll end the discomfort of pregnancy.

I had an ablation (for bleeding) at 42 and a hysterectomy (for recurrent fibroids) at 44. I still have my ovaries, but they started to slow down around the time of my ablation. I'm not sure where I am in the menopause process, but I've been experiencing perimenopausal symptoms in some way for eight years.

I'm pretty anemic and an ablation is likely in my future because my body cannot replace the amount of blood I'm losing each month.


My ablation was quite successful. It is good that you had your tubes tied, because a post-ablation pregnancy, though unlikely, is life-threatening for both mother and baby.

While periods are a nuisance I've always felt like they defined me as a woman. Even after my tubes were tied and it wasn't about fertility. I still took time to be thankful for this process that allowed me to conceive and carry my children.


I understand this well. After my ablation, I grieved the loss of my periods. For my entire life as a woman, I had used them to mark time and to feel connected to the rhythms of life. Without periods, that was gone. The rhythm of my periods was part of how my children had come into this world. Losing the function of my uterus felt like tearing down a home I'd lived in for many years. For a while, every time I would run across a tampon stuck in an odd place or an old pair of period underwear, I would experience the loss all over again.

But that faded away.

So here's what I've learned:

...It's okay to cry. A lot. For no apparent reason.
...Hot flashes are a weird experience. I once stood in three inches of snow--while wearing flip-flops--just to cool myself down.
...Life without periods is its own kind of wonderful. All my undies can be cute or sexy. I can wear white when I want to and not just on safe days. I never have to check the chair I've been sitting on to see if there's been a leak. No cramps.
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Re: Perimenopause anyone?

Postby InGodsGrace » Tue Sep 09, 2014 2:41 pm

I'm thinking I'm entering that phase. The last 2 months I'm bleeding every 2 weeks. :shock: spotting around ovulation, never happened before. I've had light periods for months, if not for the last few yrs.

I'm sad already.... Not to mention I'm on my own, can't take any hormones.. Blood disorder.

I do wonder you two, if there is a connection with a tubal and heavy periods. My sister had a tubal and had flooding periods. And earlier this winter she had an ablation.

I don't know what I'll miss... White eh? I haven't worn white since I was in college (Short, skirts, or pants... Not happening)

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Postby seeking perspective » Tue Sep 09, 2014 3:50 pm

I never had a tubal done. I had heavy and long periods my whole life.

There are some non-HRT treatments that can help with symptoms. When I'm around the house, I often place a cold wet bandana around the back of my neck to help with hot flashes--although mine are pretty mild. Also, there are some vaginal estrogen inserts that many women can use even when they can't use regular HRT. I'm thinking Estring and Vagifem. They are both a localized (don't enter the bloodstream, as I understand it) estrogen treatment to help with vaginal atrophy and dryness.
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Re: Perimenopause anyone?

Postby mamame » Tue Sep 09, 2014 4:07 pm

I'm going to have to do some serious HRT research. My mother's breast CA was not estrogen influenced but I do have a genetic clotting disorder.

I don't want to be dried and shriveled. I used the depo shot years ago and my gyn said it was chemical menopause. In his words "you look like a shriveled up 90 year old down there" yes that was gyn taking about my lady bits. That's why I love him. He puts me at ease to talk about anything.
He's been "mentioning" the ablation for 2 years. Not sure why I've been dragging my feet. I guess just the psychological loss. I'm getting closer to requiring blood transfusions tho for the anemia.

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Re: Perimenopause anyone?

Postby Leah » Tue Sep 09, 2014 4:33 pm

I never took hormones during menopause. Hot flashes were ridiculous. I've always had long, heavy, painful periods. I was a little anemic just before actual menopause, but I am fine now.
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Re: Perimenopause anyone?

Postby InGodsGrace » Tue Sep 09, 2014 5:11 pm

Thanks SP... Not sure why I thought you had a tubal. Thanks for the info on the estrogen inserts.

I know this will sound crazy... I think I'd rather have a heavy period (which I've had, I also have a fibroid) then these SUPER light periods! Or bleeding every 2 weeks.

I really could just cry. ::cb

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Re: Perimenopause anyone?

Postby InGodsGrace » Tue Sep 09, 2014 5:12 pm

Leah wrote:I never took hormones during menopause. Hot flashes were ridiculous. I've always had long, heavy, painful periods. I was a little anemic just before actual menopause, but I am fine now.


Hmmm. My mom didn't take anything either for menopause.

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Re: Perimenopause anyone?

Postby mamame » Tue Sep 09, 2014 5:17 pm

My mom didn't and did fine so maybe I'm worrying for nothing

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Re: Perimenopause anyone?

Postby mom210 » Tue Sep 09, 2014 5:46 pm

Just finished going through menopause....actually i like the freedom it gives me....not tired from bleeding each month, able to plan life without considering if I'll be bleeding at that time.
I do take black cohosh and its great for hot flashes that i get occasionally, but other than that is good.

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Re: Perimenopause anyone?

Postby ledgemoor » Tue Sep 09, 2014 5:59 pm

Find a good bioidentical HRT specialist and talk to her.

DW had perimenopause symptoms and screwy periods most of her adult life. Menopause went smoothly for her, until she started bleeding again. We discovered she had uterine cancer.

From our reading we learned that if she had started bHRT as soon as she started having menstrual problems, the cancer may have been avoided.

Since DW started bHRT after menopause, I don't know much about bHRT and perimenopause, but I do know that they can treat it. Menstrual problems are caused by hormonal problems.
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Re: Perimenopause anyone?

Postby Nvr2Late » Tue Sep 09, 2014 7:02 pm

I had so many female issues, that by the time my GYN said "Out with it!" I was more than ready. And after the recovery period, I have never one day regretted being without a uterus. Now, we've talked a bit about bio-identical hormones, and that IMO, is the answer. You see someone for testosterone, don't you? You can add some other hormones into the mix as time goes on (once you're surgically menopausal, the symptoms come on pretty quickly).

I didn't google ablation and have forgotten what it entails, but will you keep your ovaries?

They wouldn't give me Premarin back in 2001 because I had extensive endometriosis and past cancer. Once I learned more about it, I was thankful I never took that mess. But you know I'm a believer in restoring our hormone balance through bio-identical means. I feel better today than I did for more than 10 yrs BEFORE my hysterectomy.
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Re: Perimenopause anyone?

Postby mamame » Tue Sep 09, 2014 7:26 pm

An ablation basically burns the lining of the uterus so you have very little to no periods.

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Re: Perimenopause anyone?

Postby seeking perspective » Wed Sep 10, 2014 7:08 am

I had forgotten about this resource until I was just now looking in my inbox: Red Hot Mamas. It is a menopause education and support website with articles, tips, and a community forum. There's also a Man Cave area with some menopause information for the men in our lives.
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Re: Perimenopause anyone?

Postby Mumof2cuteboys » Wed Sep 10, 2014 8:42 am

mamame wrote:An ablation basically burns the lining of the uterus so you have very little to no periods.

I have never had of ablation before. Thanks for your definition of the term.
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Re: Perimenopause anyone?

Postby spiritfire777 » Wed Sep 10, 2014 11:10 am

mamame wrote:My body is very clearly declaring itself as beginning the transition to menopause - and I am not liking it.! Is God making my periods so horrible that I will be thankful to have them gone?
I'm sad and a little scared about what this means for my overall health. Not to mention admitting that I'm getting older..


I feel you... there seems to be a lot of us going through this now...

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Re: Perimenopause anyone?

Postby mamame » Wed Sep 10, 2014 11:38 am

Well we are an awesome club if nothing else!

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Re: Perimenopause anyone?

Postby InGodsGrace » Tue Sep 16, 2014 1:25 pm

I made an appointment for Thursday with my doctor about my latest symptoms. Dunno if it's good or bad she was able to get me in so soon. :(

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Re: Perimenopause anyone?

Postby mamame » Tue Sep 16, 2014 6:23 pm

Maybe it was just God showing you favor.

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Re: Perimenopause anyone?

Postby InGodsGrace » Tue Sep 16, 2014 6:28 pm

Thanks for the reminder Mamame... Our pastor has been speaking on favor for a few weeks now.


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