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Too young for real menopause?

Posted: Mon Nov 03, 2014 8:27 am
by av8r75
DW just turned 37 a couple months ago. Yesterday we were swapping out summer clothes for winter when she asked me to leave her summer sleepware out. She said last winter she tended to be too warm for winter PJs in bed (although not too warm to wear them under a full length shapeless zip up robe)n and that she was starting her "changes", meaning hot flashes and the onset of menopause. I'm not buying it, thinking that she's just looking forward to getting her lifetime get-out-of-jail-free card, but have no idea how to approach. 37 just seems young for menopause...I know 38 is pretty young for the forced celibacy that I will endure as a result.

Re: Too young for real menopause?

Posted: Mon Nov 03, 2014 8:40 am
by OldMarriedLady
I went into full-blown menopause at 36 years old and haven't had a period since. It happened a month after my tubal ligation so it may be because of that (though my ob/gyn insists the two are not related).

Re: Too young for real menopause?

Posted: Mon Nov 03, 2014 8:51 am
by seeking perspective
I was in my upper 30's when I began to experience some symptoms of perimenopause, including night sweats.

Menopause does not equal the end of sex, although some menopausal symptoms can require some adjustments (vaginal dryness, for instance, may require that a couple always uses artifiial lube).Neither one of you should be assuming that sex is over.

Re: Too young for real menopause?

Posted: Mon Nov 03, 2014 9:52 am
by av8r75
I know it SHOULDN'T mean the end of sex, but I'm being pragmatic. She believes it does/should and I think she's looking forward to it.

Re: Too young for real menopause?

Posted: Mon Nov 03, 2014 10:42 am
by suffolk sinner
Ask. It's one thing for you to assume it, but it's another thing for you to know for sure. And then you can make your plan after you know.

Re: Too young for real menopause?

Posted: Mon Nov 03, 2014 11:55 am
by SeekingChange
seeking perspective wrote:I was in my upper 30's when I began to experience some symptoms of perimenopause, including night sweats.

And perimenopause can happen up to 10 years prior to actually entering menopause.

Re: Too young for real menopause?

Posted: Mon Nov 03, 2014 12:46 pm
by OldBear
Well, she's wrong that "menopause does/should . . . mean the end of sex." Many women on this board will attest to the fact that does not/should not happen, and Mrs. Oldbear is a poster woman that menopause does not have to affect the sex life of woman and a couple. In fact, our sex life is better than ever - 20 years after menopause.

Talk together about this change and be understanding. Sure, there will be adjustments and libido changes, but it's not a terminal 'sex disease.'