UPDATE: Sex is painful, haven't been able to fully have sex

Painfull intercourse, pain with sexual activity, and pain that prevents sex or makes sex difficult.
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Re: Sex is painful, haven't been able to fully have sex

Postby seeking perspective » Sun Sep 15, 2013 10:00 am

What a spectacular update! Are you both walking around with huge smiles on your faces today?
Gillian wrote:One last thing that I haven’t told anyone on this site and I’m going to start crying while I write this; Friday night was the first time since my husband and I have been married that he orgasmed inside of me (hope that’s not TMI). This is one of the reasons I have felt like a failure at sex and like I couldn’t please my husband. This wouldn’t have happened without the awesome input and information on this site, thank you all so much, you have no idea how much that meant to me and how much it’s helped my self-esteem and confidence. I felt like a complete failure before Friday night. That probably sounds dumb but that was important to me.

You know what? I've been married over twenty years. Even now, there are times when my husband having an orgasm inside me makes me feel so close and connected to him that it brings me to tears. They are tears of rejoicing and unity.
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Re: Sex is painful, haven't been able to fully have sex

Postby Gillian » Sun Sep 15, 2013 10:34 am

Yes, big smiles at our house all weekend! My run the next morning was so invigorating, I could have run a marathon I was on such a high :D

Thank you for your comment regarding you and your husband. I thought it was something dumb that I had made-up in my head.

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Re: Sex is painful, haven't been able to fully have sex

Postby Prayerful » Sun Sep 15, 2013 10:58 am

Gillian, what wonderful news! Much thanks to God. Don't worry, it's not tmi for those of us who have been married for some time.

In answer to your question, things are looser after an O.

Sounds like things are progressing well.

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Re: Sex is painful, haven't been able to fully have sex

Postby Clean Sheets » Sun Sep 15, 2013 2:34 pm

Wow! What an amazing story of God's blessing, and hope renewed. May God continue to bless you guys big time!

Glad the holding his member while enjoying festivities worked out so well!

I'm once again so glad there is a website like TMB. Where else could you talk about these things in a Christian environment?

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Re: Sex is painful, haven't been able to fully have sex

Postby Gillian » Sun Sep 15, 2013 5:12 pm

Yes, it's amazing to me coming from an ultra conservative home I didn't know Christians discussed these topics. Its so refreshing.

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Re: Sex is painful, haven't been able to fully have sex

Postby George B. » Mon Dec 09, 2013 10:40 pm

so glad you guys figured this out. We have a very similar story in our early marriage. I can testify that 17 years and 7 kids later, things get a LOT easier and better, especially when it comes to easy penetration.
On sex: "Neither men nor women will be asked to throw away the weapon they have used victoriously. It is the beaten and the fugitives who throw away their swords. The conquerors sheathe theirs and retain them."-C.S. Lewis

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Re: Sex is painful, haven't been able to fully have sex

Postby Dgenerous » Thu Feb 27, 2014 4:05 pm

What a great thread... Just caught up today. Glad things are looking more hopeful for you guys!
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UPDATE: Sex is painful, haven't been able to fully have sex

Postby Gillian » Tue Aug 19, 2014 1:42 pm

Hi Everyone, just wanted to stop in and say hello. Sex can still be a little painful for me if we jump right into it otherwise it's awesome and we've enjoyed the newlywed phase of our lives.

We've set a goal on when we would like to start a family and I'm looking forward to this but also scared, but I'm sure that will work out too.

Hi to everyone - G

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Re: UPDATE: Sex is painful, haven't been able to fully have

Postby facetoface » Thu Aug 21, 2014 11:54 am

What a great update Gillian!!

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Re: UPDATE: Sex is painful, haven't been able to fully have

Postby Clean Sheets » Tue Sep 02, 2014 1:36 am

Thankful to hear the update, Gillian!


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