BPH and frequency questions

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Re: BPH and frequency questions

Postby Nvr2Late » Wed Jul 10, 2013 2:23 pm

The tenderness is in the perineal area mostly, but when he's really inflamed it begins to affect the emptying of his bladder too, and then he develops cystitis. We are doing everything we know to prevent both of these conditions, and finally I think we're seeing progress.

The testosterone is making itself felt, now. He has more energy, libido up more, erections firmer. All around better in that department. He's starting to work out more too. He's still taking Flomax but will likely switch to Cialis soon.

His estradiol level was 25 (range 0-54) and his testosterone was 378 (range 300 - 800). Along with the pellets they added an anti estrogen compound, so that will be helpful too.

Yesterday for the first time using the Dr Joel's massager on himself, he got aroused. That in itself is a big improvement! Needless to say, when he called me upstairs I was happy to help him :D
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Re: BPH and frequency questions

Postby texashubby » Sat Jul 20, 2013 5:36 pm

After reading the WARNINGS associated with BHP drugs, I said "No thanks!"

I use the following to supplements & drug to reduce BPH.

AM
One Pygeum Extract capsule (Vitamin Shoppe brand),
One Stinging Nettle capsule (also from VS)
One Saw Palmetto capsule

PM
One Saw Palmetto capsule
2.5 mg tadalafil (Cialis) 5mg cut in half

Saw Palmetto, Stinging Nettle & Pygeum is used to treat symptoms of BPH by inhibiting the production of 5-alpha-reductase enzyme. I have not had any adverse side-effects from these three supplements.

5-alpha-reductase enzyme combines with testosterone to produce dihydrotestosterone (DHT).

DHT is the primary contributing factor in male pattern baldness and benign prostatic hyperplasia.

Reduce or stop converting testosterone to DHT and it should reduce BPH symptoms.

Tadalafil is now a FDA approved drug for the treatment of BPH and it has great side-effects.

Regarding Women DOCTORS/URLOGIST

I have found women doctors usually have thinner fingers (which is good) and not are as rough as male doctors (which is also good), although long finger-nails can be :shock:.

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Re: BPH and frequency questions

Postby Nvr2Late » Mon Jul 22, 2013 4:20 pm

Thanks for posting all that, Texashubby. I hear ya on the warnings for the BPH drugs.

I have to say, this is all becoming a bit exhausting for me. I hate to even put that in writing, but it's just the truth. It's like the defining issue in our marriage, and I'm becoming increasingly unhappy about it. It's sort of a gatekeeping thing now. His BPH is a constant issue. He takes pretty much all the best herbal supplements we've been able to find, (matching your list precisely) and it seems to do nothing at all.

He began taking Cialis, 5 mg. daily, on Monday last week. Within 24 hrs he was having strong involuntary erections all night and day. For two days we just took care of it for him the usual way. By Friday, he said he had a pain in his groin again, strong tingling sensations as if his legs were asleep, and didn't want to make love all weekend. <<<sigh>>>....here we go again :| So he blamed/stopped the Cialis. I think it was a combination of the testosterone hitting his system plus the Cialis, but whatever.

Friday afternoon he spent at the VA, and they (once again - it's always this way) no infection, but send him home with a script for more Cipro and some pyridium for the burning sensation in his urethra. He had no fever. I spent the time while he was there researching his condition again and we've almost come to the conclusion that he has Intersitial Cystitis, and possibly NO BPH at all. I have done several prostate exams on him now and to the best of my ability, it does not feel enlarged at all. (granted, I don't have a lot of experience but there are plenty of descriptions to be found on medical sites).

What I did find that alarmed me was how dangerous a drug Cipro is. (google it, if you dare!! :shock: )
It could well have caused most of his symptoms. I was floored.

I have a fair amount of medical & pharmaceutical background. As a former cancer patient, I know more than the average person about medications, physiology and so on. I'm fascinated with medicine and especially alternative and complementary medicine. I also know for a fact that he can expect to get sub-par treatment at the VA. I'm a strong believer in educating ourselves about all medical treatments and being our own patient advocate. So I'm sort of doing this for DH and trying to get him to learn about his condition, too.

So as of late Saturday, he's off all supplements except those recommended for IC, and we'll see where that takes him. We're both about 90% convinced he's been misdiagnosed. He disclosed to me one evening last week that when he was in the Navy, he contracted a bad case of gonorrhea, and he thinks that was the beginning of his woes. That seems reasonable.

What doesn't seem reasonable is that he is nearly ALWAYS sick, unable to make love, and in discomfort! So far, we've been married about 5 months, and have had about 6 weeks of normal MB activity interspersed with his problems. It's fine for about 5 days to a week, then he's messed up again.

I have concerns that he's something of a hypochondriac, or maybe that's too strong a word, but he's got a sort of anxious temperament and he lets this stuff just wear him down. I get a full blow-by-blow description each day of how his *boy parts* are faring...and sometimes it's just TMI. Yes, I've told him.

Sorry about the venting, but we have a problem, Houston...and it's getting worse instead of better. And our MB is suffering :(
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