It just gets better and better

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It just gets better and better

Postby DeepSouth » Mon Jun 16, 2014 5:39 am

You know, I love my kids to infinity, but there's a lot of advantages to being empty nesters.

When you get up in the morning, and there's a vibrator laying on the kitchen counter, and lingerie and ropes laying all over the living room, and you can just go "Eh, clean it up after work"...well, it just gets better and better :-)

How has the kids being gone changed your sex life?
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Re: It just gets better and better

Postby seeker12 » Mon Jun 16, 2014 7:43 am

We are empty nesters too but the frequency of sex is less, mostly due to DW's health. I do not think that our MB is the norm for empty nesters in their 50's though.

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Re: It just gets better and better

Postby txtwindad » Mon Jun 16, 2014 9:23 am

I hope it is not the norm, Seeker12. If it is it shouldn't be. Your lack of sex is deeper than health problems. There is also an attitude problem that is all through your posts. An unwillingness on her part to see sex outside of a very narrow viewpoint. It is the combination of health issues and that attitude that is tempting you to give up on that aspect of your marriage.

In our experience, sex is much more free and frequent without the constant needs of children to attend to. The children were a true joy, but them being gone is also a true joy. Interacting with them as adults is a wonderful stage of life.

Health problems will strike every couple unless one of you dies suddenly. It is wise to develop a very broad definition and variety to your sexual lives. And to never allow physical infirmity to steal the sexual nature of your relationship. Your ability to express that sexuality may become more limited, but it is still vital.
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Re: It just gets better and better

Postby Oklahoma » Mon Jun 16, 2014 3:43 pm

So much easier and way way for frequent with the kids all gone. Daytime, nighttime, any room in the house, most especially in the yard..... no waiting or planning required. (love the outdoors) We live out in the stix, so 'yard work' is now, no problem. Work in the garden, or work in her garden....is there a choice here???

Yup.....better & better!

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Postby seeking perspective » Mon Jun 16, 2014 4:07 pm

We still have our kids with us. Fortunately, as young adults with jobs, we enjoy nice long stretches of time when we can have all sorts of raucous fun. We have neighbors close by and cannot enjoy the outdoors, but we love being able to be loud, play in different rooms, and use our furniture for fun times. We've dabbled a bit in role playing now that we have access to the whole house. I long for the day when I can leave a vibrator on the kitchen table.
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Re: It just gets better and better

Postby txtwindad » Mon Jun 16, 2014 4:48 pm

seeking perspective wrote:. I long for the day when I can leave a vibrator on the kitchen table.


A vibrator left out strategically might speed their departure.
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Re: It just gets better and better

Postby DeepSouth » Mon Jun 16, 2014 4:54 pm

txtwindad wrote:
seeking perspective wrote:. I long for the day when I can leave a vibrator on the kitchen table.


A vibrator left out strategically might speed their departure.

:) quite possibly!

Indeed, the ability to be as loud as you want/need and not being concerned the headboard is hitting the wall are great benefits! Way better than the hotel discounts with AARP :-)
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Re: It just gets better and better

Postby seeking perspective » Mon Jun 16, 2014 5:01 pm

txtwindad wrote:A vibrator left out strategically might speed their departure.


LOL. The lube I left on the coffee didn't do the trick, so it's hard to know if a vibrator would work.

DeepSouth wrote:Indeed, the ability to be as loud as you want/need and not being concerned the headboard is hitting the wall are great benefits! Way better than the hotel discounts with AARP :-)


We've gotten so used to having sex sideways on the bed to avoid the headboard banging that I'd forgotten what it sounded like.
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Re: It just gets better and better

Postby eliza1 » Mon Jun 16, 2014 6:45 pm

Sigh, my kids grew and left. My mother in law is still here, 13 years after the Dr said a year or two she would be dead.....
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Re: It just gets better and better

Postby alee » Mon Jun 16, 2014 7:51 pm

Daily sex. Loud sex. I've always been loud, now DW is trying to set new volume levels and we love it. No need to shut or lock BR door. Fun, fun, fun!
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Re: It just gets better and better

Postby librarian » Mon Jun 16, 2014 8:05 pm

seeking perspective wrote:
txtwindad wrote:A vibrator left out strategically might speed their departure.


LOL. The lube I left on the coffee didn't do the trick, so it's hard to know if a vibrator would work.



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Re: It just gets better and better

Postby Leah » Tue Jun 17, 2014 6:09 am

Husband says sex at our house is like a Pilates class.

"Anyone have any injuries?"
"All right then, choose the intermediate option."
"Go as far as you can, and breathe as you lift."
"Don't try to compete with your neighbor."
"Find your balance."
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Re: It just gets better and better

Postby OldBear » Tue Jun 17, 2014 8:38 am

The best part of being empty nesters - for over 15 years now - is lack of concern over the noise factor. Mrs. Oldbear is very expressive!

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Re: It just gets better and better

Postby OldMarriedLady » Tue Jun 17, 2014 10:39 am

Leah wrote:Husband says sex at our house is like a Pilates class.

"Anyone have any injuries?"
"All right then, choose the intermediate option."
"Go as far as you can, and breathe as you lift."
"Don't try to compete with your neighbor."
"Find your balance."
"If a move is too hard for you, it's okay to sit back and watch."

::rotfl

Our DD lives in the area and still has a key to the house, and is welcome to let herself in when we're not home. Consequently we do wash and store the toys after use just in case she'd pop in. Otherwise, being an empty nester is awesome; we have complete freedom of sexual expression now.
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Re: It just gets better and better

Postby IM_a_Farmwife » Thu Jun 26, 2014 5:15 am

Oh boy! I can hardly wait for the empty nest years. It's right around the corner.

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Postby DeepSouth » Sun Jun 29, 2014 8:13 pm

IM_a_Farmwife wrote:Oh boy! I can hardly wait for the empty nest years. It's right around the corner.


Well, then, you'd better get ready and stock up!:lol:

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Postby IM_a_Farmwife » Sun Jun 29, 2014 9:24 pm

Deepsouth wrote:
Well, then, you'd better get ready and stock up!:lol:


Only one left, I better hurry and snatch it up. I can't believe it's only $909.73, a real bargain! Did you see the reviews? :shock:

Given the fact that the baby boomers are becoming empty nesters in droves, maybe I should invest in the company. :lol:

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Re: It just gets better and better

Postby Bear » Mon Jun 30, 2014 6:42 am

DS is back home from freshman year for summer, DD is working locally so spends most weekends home.

Love the kids but they're really putting a kink in our kink. :)
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Postby soxfan1 » Wed Jul 02, 2014 8:25 am

We dreamed about the day when we are empty nesters. Our 21 year old DD, should be moving on in the next 5 years. However, our 14 year old DD was diagnosed a few years ago with Asperger's and may never be able to live independently.

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Re: It just gets better and better

Postby Legolas » Fri Jul 25, 2014 9:38 am

Well, we are just in the beginning stages of being EN's; both dd's graduated from university this year, so they are both in the process of starting their first full-time year-round jobs; we have had months during the semesters when we were EN, but they would/could still come home weekends and holidays; as someone previously stated, it really puts a kink in our kink when they are around; really loving being able to interact with them as adults, but it is nice being without them as well; we are still sort of new at this EN thing, so we really haven't gotten comfortable taking things out of the bedroom yet, nor using toys to a great extent, but we sure have gotten used to increasing the volume levels, and that has been great fun in and of itself; my heart goes out to those of you here who are have permanent residents...but God bless your hearts for doing so...no heart-based service goes unnoticed in His eyes.
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