Is this a good honeymoon idea?

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Is this a good honeymoon idea?

Postby ThatGirl » Tue Mar 13, 2018 3:54 pm

We're both virgins but not entirely innocent (having some level of experience with previous partners unfortunately, but no experience with each other). What I always wanted to do for my honeymoon was stay at a romantic hotel and just...stay in and enjoy each other. I want to know if that is impractical or not? I don't see the point in going to a fancy vacation destination at this time, when we're probably going to spend more time in our room than we will on any future vacations we have in our lives. I'd rather save the more expensive traveling for another time, when we will be more focused on the traveling.

Don't get me wrong, I don't think we're going to have sex the whole time, and I'm sure it will take time for my body to get used to sex anyway. But it would be nice to also just read a marriage book together, relax in the private in-room Jacuzzi and talk, take a shower together, even just cuddle in bed naked and watch TV (which probably sounds dumb, but it sounds like a big thing when the two of us have never been naked together or in bed together before). The hotel we're looking at, there's even an option for a private in-suite swimming pool for not too much more money. Basically, we want to just spend three days alone in our suite and clothing-optional, except for when we go out to eat. Sex may or may not happen more than once or twice, depending what my first time is like. It's basically just the intimacy of being alone together, naked a lot, enjoying our new marriage. Does this sound like it would work?

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Re: Is this a good honeymoon idea?

Postby love2 » Tue Mar 13, 2018 4:18 pm

I think so. there are a lot social pressures for both the wedding and the honeymoon. It's really important that you follow the traditions that work well for you and not worry about what other people think.

People may think that you're supposed to have a destination honeymoon but you're not marrying those people and they're probably not virgins

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Re: Is this a good honeymoon idea?

Postby Leah » Tue Mar 13, 2018 4:19 pm

It sounds like a very good idea.
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Re: Is this a good honeymoon idea?

Postby seeking perspective » Tue Mar 13, 2018 4:42 pm

That sounds absolutely lovely as you ease into intimacy.
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Re: Is this a good honeymoon idea?

Postby Learning1 » Tue Mar 13, 2018 5:11 pm

Sounds like a good idea to me. What does your fiance think about the idea ? Usually no matter where you find interesting things to do together, such as a small museums, walk in a local park, regional history, nature hike, shop the local mall etc.
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Re: Is this a good honeymoon idea?

Postby dc9 » Wed Mar 14, 2018 12:19 am

I'm a husband, and I think it sounds great! If my FW had come up with a suggestion like this 17 years ago I would have been thrilled. I wish we had done something like this for our honeymoon instead of what we did.

I think you should talk about it, though.

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Re: Is this a good honeymoon idea?

Postby tentsofpurple » Wed Mar 14, 2018 5:27 am

It sounds really nice! You might want more than 3 days if your budget/work schedules will allow for it. We only went away for a long weekend after were were married (with a longer trip several months later) and it was amazing how fast it went by. Also if you will be close to where you live I'd either not tell friends family exactly where you are or make it clear that you don't want any company/phone calls. I can see my family trying to stop by or calling if they knew we were close by.

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Re: Is this a good honeymoon idea?

Postby Twue_Wuv » Wed Mar 14, 2018 7:23 am

I love that idea. I'd be down for that.

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Re: Is this a good honeymoon idea?

Postby ledgemoor » Wed Mar 14, 2018 12:49 pm

Sounds like an excellent idea! Save the money for a cruise or travel to an exotic destination for your first anniversary.

But do make your honeymoon longer than three days if at all possible.
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Re: Is this a good honeymoon idea?

Postby Epaminondas » Thu Mar 15, 2018 1:54 pm

Sounds great. I’d also suggest a private villa, house, or cabin instead of a hotel perhaps for added privacy if those are an option nearby or to your taste. Hotels and B&Bs can be nice but can also feel less private depending on noise and sound insulation, etc.


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Re: Is this a good honeymoon idea?

Postby Purerinheart » Thu Mar 15, 2018 3:27 pm

This is exactly what my wife and I did as we didn't have money to travel. It was so nice just being undressed together and ordering room service. My wife was naked under the covers, when the food came. She was completely covered, even her head so it wasn't tacky. The hotel was next to a mall and we had our first underwear shopping trip together. So much fun. Yes, you are in for a treat just relaxing with lots of fun in the shower and just enjoying each other. Have fun enjoying God's gift of sexuality!

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Re: Is this a good honeymoon idea?

Postby C_Brown » Mon Mar 19, 2018 7:21 pm

Depends how long you are talking about. At some point it is nice to go out and explore some new place for a while before heading back to the marriage bed. It doesn't have to be some exotic location though. Most every town, even small ones not far away, have touristy type spots. And it is good to get out to some place where you have that feeling of leaving the regular work-a-day stuff behind. A place where nobody for miles and miles around you knows you or your cell phone number.
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Re: Is this a good honeymoon idea?

Postby poetess » Tue Mar 20, 2018 7:06 am

Yes, if you are only doing a three-day honeymoon, by all means stay inside the whole time. In fact, for just three days you can limit your food to room service or take a jar of peanut butter, a loaf of bread, some fruit, etc. and just stay in your room the whole time if that is what you both want. We had a week, but most of those days we stayed in, with one day set aside to take in a romantic event at a nearby location. (We might have gone out again later in the week except we ended up dealing with illness.)

If you manage a longer honeymoon, it's best still to keep some days set aside to stay "in."
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