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Pelvic Floor Therapy - Expectations & Cost w/o insurance

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Pelvic Floor Therapy - Expectations & Cost w/o insurance

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My wife is (after a year of not taking action) wanting to connect with a pelvic floor therapist.  She's always had sexual discomfort and pain since we've been married (over 14 years).  Sometimes it's worse than others but always at least discomfort.  There have been times when she's shed tears.  This only occurs with PIV.

It is not related to birth as this issue was the same before we had kids.  I know it's a huge problem and i won't go on and on here but just to say i'm trying to know what to expect so i can encourage her without being pushy and also curious on the financial side.  We are in a Christian healthshare.

Does anyone have any experience with this?
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This was an area that I heard others share their experiences and some found a great benefit it was, but I don't know details of cost.

We are part of a Christian health sharing program too. Do you think yours will cover it? I would think the one we have would.
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Seems like I listened to a podcast in pelvic floor therapy. I think it was one of episodes on the naked marriage podcast. It was some good information. Their guest was a physical therapist who specialized in it. Perhaps check out their website for information. The hosts are Dave and Ashley Willis. Their website is daveandashleywillis.com.
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Yes, THE NAKED MARRIAGE and SEXY MARRIAGE RADIO podcasts have both talked about it.
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I am so sorry that you and your DW are going through this.  It has got to be maddening and frustrating for sure.  I have no experience with any of this but I do know my school insurance (which is excellent) would pay for it after a doctor referral.  I hope yours will too.
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We do not have any direct experience with this. However, I wanted to chime in to say that it's great progress that your wife is finally looking into this with a professional. I just glanced through your posting history (because I didn't remember it), and I have to say it's heartbreaking. There really is no reason that a married woman of 14 yr should be having pain like this, especially having had kids (presuming at least one vaginally). There are several possible causes for pain, but a trained expert can help determine the cause and treat it or find ways to minimize the pain. It's definitely regretful that she hasn't gone to a doctor concerning this already.

This is a big step for your wife--please be sure to be very encouraging. She likely feels broken and embarrassed, not just about the pain you mention here but also her drive/response in general (which definitely sounds like responsive desire if you didn't already know). One thing to watch for, even if the physical pain is remedied in the future, is residual psychological damage from dealing with over a decade of painful PIV. I'd normally suggest finding non-PIV methods of taking care of you both, but your post history suggests she has a strong aversion to your penis, so I'm sure that makes things more difficult. Therefore, I guess I'll just stick with a generic suggestion to keep all things sex related as good/comfortable/pleasurable for her as possible from both a mental and physical perspective. As she gets more comfortable and confident in her sexuality, there's a good chance you'll see her mental side improve, including more openness to non-PIV sex for you.

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I saw a pelvic floor specialist. Apparently not all pelvic floor specialists are alike as to how good they are so I would ask around in your area and do a little research. My former insurance plan covered six weeks of therapy under the original referral from my PCP. I would get in touch with your preferred pelvic floor specialist’s office to see what kind, if any, of diagnostic tests or scans(Prolapse? Etc) they like to see. My PCP was clueless and only sent me there after I pleaded, but didn’t order any tests first.
My current insurance plan would not cover any physical therapy so I am glad I got it when I did. Most of what we did (specific exercise etc) has to be continued on after sessions are over or I will end up needing to see a physical therapist again eventually.
Honestly I think most women need this at some point and wish more would do it!
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